julietteromeo Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 I have an enormous crush on a former teacher. He was my teacher over a year ago. I have since graduated from the school - but am in the same field as him. These days I am single and thinking of him a lot - perhaps using fantasy to cope with the stresses of my new job. I think he likes me too. Should I add him on linkedin and send a message to see if he replies? I really think the only way I will drop this is if he tells me he is not interested. Honestly I like him so much I would be somewhat ok with hooking up with him for fun. Link to comment
mbee Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 I would highly discourage you from doing that. I'm not even sure how you have a crush on your former teacher. What do you even know about him? Do you know if he's currently available? I think the only way you can drop this is by approaching guys who are available for you. Even your last sentence "somewhat okay with hooking up with him for fun" shows a sense of desperation and putting someone you barely know on a pedestal. It sounds like an unhealthy crush. Take some time and get to know other guys and go from there. Link to comment
julietteromeo Posted February 5, 2015 Author Share Posted February 5, 2015 I think he's single. I know he's not married. To be honest we flirted a bit while I was a student, but it never went beyond that. Several times I made eye contact with him in school and he flinched. So I would have a sense of satisfaction from bagging him. I guess I was thinking if he just clearly says "No, I am not interested please don't contact me." I would drop it. Link to comment
mbee Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 This doesn't sound like it's worth it. You don't even really like him. It just sounds like you just want to hook up and have sex. I think you should figure out if he's actually single before going in there, and potentially creating problems based on a little bit of flirting and eye contact. You can message him if you want... but it seems like a whole lot of effort for someone you barely know and just want to hook up with. Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 He flinched! That doesn't sound promising...I think you may have boarded the crazy train. Link to comment
julietteromeo Posted February 6, 2015 Author Share Posted February 6, 2015 I have a really strong reaction to him because of things that happened in my past. Honestly there is a pic of him on my school's website and when I looked at it and thought of having sex with him it made me want to cry. Dysfunctional. Too bad I don't have insurance at my new job yet so I can't get counseling -- clearly I need it. Link to comment
julietteromeo Posted February 6, 2015 Author Share Posted February 6, 2015 Trust, I'm drop dead gorgeous. He flinched because he was terrified of losing his job. Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 6, 2015 Share Posted February 6, 2015 Word...you are the conductor of the train. Link to comment
julietteromeo Posted February 6, 2015 Author Share Posted February 6, 2015 He flinched! That doesn't sound promising...I think you may have boarded the crazy train. Trust, I'm drop dead gorgeous. He flinched because he was terrified of losing his job. Link to comment
julietteromeo Posted February 6, 2015 Author Share Posted February 6, 2015 Word...you are the conductor of the train. Clearly you know me so well. He is crazy too FYI. Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 6, 2015 Share Posted February 6, 2015 You are known by your words and need to post about this important issue that you want us all to help you with!! Hoot! Link to comment
julietteromeo Posted February 6, 2015 Author Share Posted February 6, 2015 You are known by your words and need to post about this important issue that you want us all to help you with!! Hoot! There is no need to name call - you said I was crazy. If you do not find this to be an important issue please do not reply. I do not think his flinching shows he thinks I am crazy. I am actually very sad about this. Link to comment
Shady2003 Posted February 6, 2015 Share Posted February 6, 2015 Sure, contact him, what do you have to lose? Link to comment
Shady2003 Posted February 6, 2015 Share Posted February 6, 2015 Contact him on FB though Link to comment
julietteromeo Posted February 7, 2015 Author Share Posted February 7, 2015 He's not on Facebook. Link to comment
Sarah691607309662 Posted February 7, 2015 Share Posted February 7, 2015 explore your passions. it is healthier to do that than to bottle up everything in yourself. Give it a try. He is an adult and he will think for himself. You will have to be responsible for yourself. Everything is a lesson. You might learn something new. Link to comment
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