Beyond Casual Dating

[-Perplexed-]

If one is casually dating how do you go beyond that. Any tips on talking about it. Should u get flowers or? Thanks for the replies.

 

If you have been following my other threads we are "casually dating" and I don't know what to do, even though I think we both like eachother a lot.

[emma34]

starting some sort of routine. like calling eachother every night - or however often.

[-Perplexed-]

Hmm. I thought about it but really theres not that much to talk about. We talk everyday and see eachother everday so calling is semi-awkard. Cause I don't know what to say and I don't know if she is like "Why is he calling me". I think too much

[Ceema-k]

hey there; I'm in a similar situation and I suppose it requires some extra patience.

 

How long have you guys been casually dating?

You might want to try planning an especially romantic and well thought-out date in the near future. Or just get together and do something completely different than what the two of you have done before.. just make sure it's fun.

 

Keep us posted on how it goes. (I'd sure be interested in getting some ideas too!)

[RayKay]

I think you just have to talk about it, and bring it up in converstation and let her know you are interested in taking it to another level. Always works/worked for me as long as you sort of knew the feelings were there on their side as well

[PavPPZ1]

sex helps, but i dont know how old you are... so take this advice only with discretion. If you are too young for that, just try to be friends, I am not really sure what you mean by going beyond casual dating? can you be more specific...

[69_king]

I'm kind of in the same position right now, so I can't offer any advice.

 

But I'm wondering how many dates couples go on per week when they are just starting out.

 

Right now I am seeing my girlfriend about twice a week and we have known each other for about 1 month.

[Ceema-k]

Semantics.. it's so fun!

 

I can't bring myself to call her my girlfriend yet... although we have gone out on dates 1-2 times a week for the past 2 and a half months. We just tell other people that we're "seeing" each other. The vaguest of vague terms. It sounds non-committal too, but it's not (at not for me!).

 

I suppose the labelling of things is far less important than what is happening in the reality of your situation.

 

69_king: i don't think there is any average of how often couple go on dates when they first meet. I shy away from going out more than 2x a week, but it all depends.

[69_king]

My girlfriend would probably be a little embarrassed to hear my call her that, she's quite shy, but I'm sure that underneath she would like it.

 

Anyway, she's a girl and she's my friend, so "girl-friend", what other term is there to use??

 

Also, it just feels good to say "my girlfriend" as I haven't been able to say that in a long time

[-Perplexed-]

Thats a lot of dates. What have you been doing lately? What do your dates consist of. I think we just need to go on a few more dates then stuff with smooth out. Just don't know what to do. If I can keep her happy till Christmas we can watch her dvd together

[PavPPZ1]

If I can keep her happy till Christmas we can watch her dvd together

 

Lol what love does to sane people

[-Perplexed-]

Heh.

I just don't know what to do but watching a dvd sounds like a good idea so yeah I see her at 6am tomorrow anything can happen we shall see.