tea Posted December 7, 2004 Share Posted December 7, 2004 Proof of him following you is enough. No one has the right to stalk another. If he hits you next time, go see a doctor and get it documented. If you can't tell your parents you'll have to stand up for yourself. If he hits you hit him back. Let him know there is no way you're going to let him abuse you and if he keeps it up you'll go to the police with all the bruises and evidences and file him for sexual assault. He may be bigger than you right now, but he's still your age. I remember when I was 14 I had to run after people who were abusing me and threaten to kill them to make them back off... but I was also determined to kill them if they dont' back off. I'm not saying you should threaten to kill him... I think that's the last resort, but you need to make it clear that you won't let him abuse you. See if any teachers in your school care about this case. I know a lot of times we can't trust teachers and they really don't care much about students, but there are still a rare few that do care. If no one cares, then go to your counselor, go to administration, then go to your principle... if that doesn't work, go to the next PTA meeting... make them care and protect you. People may think he's a really nice guy, but they also think you're a really nice girl. It's a girl's words versus a guy's words. People are more likely to believe you. If they don't believe you, cry. Act, cry, whatever, just make sure they know you're hurt and you're afraid of your ex-boyfriend. That'll usually get them to start caring. Link to comment
lost_666 Posted December 7, 2004 Author Share Posted December 7, 2004 All of this advice is making me see i really need to tell someone, i dont want him to end up killing me or anything. I just want to be left alone. I will tell a teacher in my school. Should i wait until he does it again or tell them straight away? Link to comment
arwen Posted December 7, 2004 Share Posted December 7, 2004 Tell it straight away. He has done enough already, why wait for a next time? Good luck, and keep us posted! Ilse. Link to comment
lost_666 Posted December 7, 2004 Author Share Posted December 7, 2004 THANKS TO EVERYONE! ILL TELL YOU ALL HOW I GOT ON TOMORROW. TAKE CARE AND BLESS YOU ALL..................XXX Link to comment
xbox_modding_freak Posted December 8, 2004 Share Posted December 8, 2004 -XmF BTW videogame chracter outta which game is that ugly dude out of in y our pic _Edit If he tried to rape you tell someone quick... Link to comment
sisterlynch Posted December 9, 2004 Share Posted December 9, 2004 I am not too sure about that post? What are you saying? Link to comment
xbox_modding_freak Posted December 9, 2004 Share Posted December 9, 2004 I Was in a frizz whe ni posted that , ignore it Link to comment
lost_666 Posted December 9, 2004 Author Share Posted December 9, 2004 I told my friends! They are keeping him well away from me, but he hit one of my guy frinds today. i dont want this to keep happening. im still too scared to telll my teachers! But friends is a start...........Thanks to everyone you are all beautiful xxx Link to comment
avman Posted December 9, 2004 Share Posted December 9, 2004 Telling a friend is a good start. Work up the courage to tell an adult too - ok? They can take actions to help you that your friends won't be able to. Link to comment
arwen Posted December 10, 2004 Share Posted December 10, 2004 Good thing that more people now know about this. How did they respond? Why did he hit one of your friends? Well, hope you will soon find the strength and courage to tell someone that can offer you help. I know it's difficult... take care! Ilse. Link to comment
lost_666 Posted December 13, 2004 Author Share Posted December 13, 2004 well my friend hit him because he started threatening all of them. About 5 of us were walking down the road to go into town and i saw him and 2 other people. i tried to hise behind everyone but he saw me. he said why are you hidding from your feelins your being a complete messed up stupid b***h! my mate who is a big guy said back off and they started bad mouthing off each other and he just hit him and we walked off. In the past two days my "stalker" if you like to call it that hasnt really bothered me. He has sent a few texts and callled twice but he has kept away. i think he has learnt his lesson, but i dont know yet! Link to comment
arwen Posted December 17, 2004 Share Posted December 17, 2004 Hey lost666, Sorry for my delayed response! I think you should still talk to someone more than your friends. It is a very good thing that they protected you. I am glad to hear that at least until this monday he hasn't really bothered you. Still I think you shouldn't wait for a next time. He has already yelled at you and threatened your friends. What would have happened if you were alone? Do you really want to wait for a next time, when he has already tried to rape you and threatened you so many times? This guy is out of his mind, and is dangerous! Really, there are people out there who can help you. You cannot make things worse by talking to someone, trust me. The people who can help you can at least make a record of this guy. I felt like a fool once, when I filed a complaint at the police after being filmed naked in a private solarium cubicle. I was walking around and cooling down after the solarium was off, and I saw a metal pin with a digital mini cam on it, the lense right on me. I yelled and the thing went down and someone ran away. (the cubicles are two by two and separated by a wall that doesn't reach the ceiling). Anyway at the solarium they gave me his name, and I went to the police. I don't want my naked body on a porn site. They took me very seriously, and of course this person denied. It was his word agains mine, but I had a case! He has a criminal record now, and if he ever does it again, he will be punished. The goal of this illustration: if he does this to you, there's a chance he will do this to someone else. Looking for help is PRIMARILY something you should do for your own sake. But next to that: people who have legal power of some sort in your country knowing about this, will at least offer others and yourself some protection against one violent person more. I hope this helps, Ilse. Link to comment
naecha Posted December 17, 2004 Share Posted December 17, 2004 Hey Lost666, I think you should text this guy and ask if you and someone you both know can meet up and talk about things. I think you need to have the other person there so that they can protect you and if he only threatens you when you are alone then he wont then. I think you should tell him that you want him to stop. But that you want to attain a friendship with him just not a relationship. I don't know if my advice is helpful or not but I thought I should post my opinion. Also maybe if you tell other friends where you are going and that you are meeting up with him they can call people if you are gone for a while. Maybe say you'd call them at a certain time or something. Good luck with everything. Nae xxx Link to comment
arwen Posted December 28, 2004 Share Posted December 28, 2004 Hey girl, How are you now? Did you talk to someone who can help you? I hope you're doing fine, and that you keep us posted here on your situation. Happy holidays Ilse Link to comment
Cloud802 Posted January 4, 2005 Share Posted January 4, 2005 My g/f went through a stalker situation once before as well. I had to yell at her to get her to call the 5-0 and get my point accross, she was hurt that I would be angry with her, but if it weren't for my actions she'd probably be dead right now. Link to comment
lost_666 Posted January 6, 2005 Author Share Posted January 6, 2005 Well I told my parents but he started coming around my house and threatening to kill someone. We rang up the police and he got taken away with a warning. Now he is trying to apologise to me and say its just that he likes me so much. He asked me if he can take me out somewhere to make up for it. Is that a good idea? Link to comment
avman Posted January 6, 2005 Share Posted January 6, 2005 No, that is a very bad idea. Going somewhere alone with someone who has shown violent tendencies is very dangerous. You've already had to call the police on him to protect yourself. Stay away from this guy. You could really get hurt. Link to comment
lost_666 Posted January 9, 2005 Author Share Posted January 9, 2005 thanks i worked that out for myself. He hasn't bothered me for a while now and its making me feel more happy and safe with my current bf! But every now and again i get the odd text call or word from him but ive learnt to just ignore him. Thank you sooooo much to everyone who has helped me your so amazing! take care ........xxx Link to comment
WithOrWithoutYou Posted March 17, 2005 Share Posted March 17, 2005 Stay away from him - FAR away. He is physically abusive, and you aren't even a couple! Imagine what he would try to get away with if at some point, you went out with him, and he felt like he had a license to do that! (not that going out with him would actually give him a license to do that, but pieces of garbage who abuse women think that way). You might want to consider getting a Personal Protection Order/Restraining Order, or the local equivalent, so that if he even comes around again, you can have him arrested right away, without him having to hit you first. Link to comment
arwen Posted March 17, 2005 Share Posted March 17, 2005 Hey girl! Ah, I hope you will read it, my reaction is a bit ... delayed! I am glad you are doing so well now, I hope you will never be bothered by the guy again. Take care and enjoy your bf! Ilse. Link to comment
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