Timahani Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 Hello Everyone just needed some advice...I live in some crazy apartments...the apartments are filled with drugs ...violence...robbery...its not just the adults ..but the teenagers who are also involved anyways....my neighbor has three sons...who are like my God brothers.....they are teenagers who struggle with addiction....and anger from their adoption....one is dealing with his past history of sexual abuse anyways...........one of them I had to talk to his mother because he was disrespecting me...slamming doors and talking back..during his visit with me......since the talk with his her..... he has refused to talk to me... its been a month.....and every since then my little brother who is his same age 17 and has been having alot of problems in the apartment.. the teenagers (even though it wasnt his fault)....I ignore my God brother...because my counselor said that he has to learn how to treat people and I shouldnt cave in....Before he didnt seem to get it but I think this time..things will really stick however he is really mad... His brothers speak to me.....and give me hugs ...but they are constantly asking for things.....food (everyday)....rides....borrow things.........knocking on my door at 11:40 at night wanting shampoo...or different items......... I dont want to be taken advantage of....I have started telling them NO! What should the my Response be? Am I being used? Most importantly: How to I take control of the situation and restore peace in my apartments ***oh yeah I have tried talking to him one time...but he ignored me completely. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 Set boundaries. 1. If my door is closed, or it is after 11pm....do not bother me. 2. If you borrow something, I expect it returned. 3. If you want me to give you food, or a ride --- I expect something in return. And let them wash your windows, or whatever favor you want. It is about boundaries and respect ---- which you don't often see in those environments. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Timahani Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 mhowe: what do I do about the silent treatment......and about the kiddo spreading rumors...in the apartment....I dont feel that I can control that.....but I need to know how to respond to that.......so that I dont make matters worse for my brother and I.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 I don't know your age, but these are teenagers and gossip is their currency. If you hear a rumor and need to address it, do so. As an adult. Without losing your temper, or causing them to lose too much face. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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