suzysuzy Posted November 28, 2004 Share Posted November 28, 2004 I am wondering when will a guy loose interest in a girl if he keeps showing emotions towards her but she didn't show any feelings towards him? Link to comment
Mr. Cactus Posted November 28, 2004 Share Posted November 28, 2004 What an excellent quesion I think you will find the answer is "how long is a piece of string". But for what it is worth, I'll give you my personal experience. About 4 months is about as long as I have lasted before I declare my pursuit is not going to bring any results or reciprocation on the part of the other person. Although there was an older women once who I think I did not give up on for a couple of years! But that really was the exception. Looking back on that particular episode, I really wonder what the heck was going through my head! Anyway, I can't wait to see other people's replies. What is the record going to be I wonder? Link to comment
Beachgirl11 Posted November 28, 2004 Share Posted November 28, 2004 suzysuzy..... That is a good question. I was just in that exact situation. I'm a female and was casually seeing (well, casual on my part) this guy who was 8 years older than I and he was in the process of going through a divorce. He had just moved out on his wife 3 months before I started seeing him (his wife wanted the divorce after 20 years of marriage). I think he was so used to the companionship of someone else that he wanted to jump right back into a relationship again with somebody/anybody to fill the "emptiness void" regardless how little he knew that person. He would always express his emotions and how he felt about me.....but I only knew him for 2 months. I told him I honestly didn't know how I felt about him, but I liked him and that I enjoyed being around him. He used to claim I was "scared" of a relationship. The truth of the matter was I just wasn't as attracted to him as he was to me, and didn't feel comfortable discussing intimate things with him. I have another friend that was the same way...married for 14 years, now going through a divorce, but wanted to get into an immediate relationship with someone again. (And he is now....just not with me). No wonder people go through multiple marriages/multiple divorces because they don't take the time to evaluate their relationship or potential mate. They just want to be in a relationship! Oh, and just in case you're wondering, the guy I was seeing for 2 months, started ignoring my phone calls. I had to talk to his friend to find out what happened. Apparently I was dumpted for a bank teller with 3 kids! He could have handled it the mature way, returned a phone call, and said he was seeing someone else. I could have handled a friendship with him, but apparently he wanted to cut off all ties........ Link to comment
Double J Posted November 28, 2004 Share Posted November 28, 2004 Good question, Suzy. I can honestly say that I fell victim to this situation in my last relationship. I became a little too emotional in persisting something "official" with my gf who insisted that she wasn't ready for something so serious. She wanted more of a fling type of thing, and that totally made me feel like she wasn't as into me as I was with her. Of course, if someone you like tells you they're not "ready" you know what that means. It is only a matter of time before a person can get tired of expressing how they feel without getting anything in return. It eventually feels like a waste of time - like you could do better. Plus, feelings wear out. If I start to sense that I'm not getting what I deserve, I'll probably get tired and move on in a matter of a few short weeks. Link to comment
SaSaRai Posted November 28, 2004 Share Posted November 28, 2004 heh , took me 6 years..... and she completely blew me off everytime i talked to her.... soooo..... Link to comment
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