comalies Posted November 10, 2004 Share Posted November 10, 2004 i'll try to make this as short as i can and to the point: i dated a great girl for 3 years and thought everything was going great, then 10 months ago, she dropped a bomb on me. she wanted to see other people. i know what that means because it has been said to me before. we still talk to each other and both understand that it was both of our faults for the breakup. i was a jealous person and made her feel guilty, she would never speak her mind and tell me when things were wrong, so her lack of communication and my jealousy really caused this breakup. i didn't want to let her go, but i had to. she did her partying, she ended up seeing other people and here we are present day. we had very little contact over the last 10 months. well recently i started seeing a girl about 1 month ago. then while talking to the ex, she asked me what i did over the weekend. i told her i went out (very vague answer yes, but we agreed while we were broken up to not tell the other party if we were seeing other people unless they wanted to know) so i told her i've been seeing someone else. right after i told her that, she told me she still loves me so much and basically i'm "the one" for her. while she said she isn't ready to be with me yet (she says she wants time to herself for a while still) she sees herself with me in the future. i asked her if i was not dating another girl would she have told me her feelings? she said yes she would have. she does admit she is jealous that i'm seeing someone else, but she can't do anything about that. i went through 10 months of being so lonely and finally started consistently dating someone else, now the ex tells me these things. so as you can see it confused the heck out of me. now i've only known this new girl for one month, but as of now i still miss my ex a ton and see myself with her as well. (even though the ex doesn't want to start things over for a while, she doesn't know when she'll be ready, she just isn't ready right now for a relationship. but i am) i guess my heart is still with my ex, yet i want a relationship now, and i have that new girl i've been dating. but it seems i have a tough choice to make. the new girl i'm seeing doesn't want to be a rebound and i told her she wouldnt be (i told her this BEFORE my ex told me her feelings for me. you see i thought i was over my ex because i have moved on, i thought my ex wanted nothing to do with me on a relationship level). so now i risk hurting this new girl who really likes me, i like her alot as well, just not on the same level as my ex. so anyone with insight on this please help. and to make things worse, the new girl and i both made it clear that we want more than the usual making out, and there is alot of sexual tension between us. if i sleep with her i dont know how it will affect any sort of future with my ex. thanks everyone Quote Link to comment
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