Zach42o1 Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 so here it is. i have been thinking about stopping by my ex's house with a card and to ask her face to face if she would like to just go out for a cup of tea and catch up... its been 6 weeks since we broke up. she had shown feelings about 1.5 weeks ago and just dropped off the face of the earth to me. Link to comment
sharky988 Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 Okay, 1-1/2 weeks ago is 10 days, right? How has she "shown feelings" in this time? Link to comment
Zach42o1 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Share Posted February 1, 2013 ok for about 4 days we were talking normally. she was saying everything that she missed about being with me. telling me that i have always been amazing to her. and then she just stopped talking to me completely. Link to comment
sharky988 Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 Okay -- I can understand why you'd be confused, here. The thing is -- she dumped you. IF it's going to work out, she has to want you back. And she has to say that in pretty clear terms. So.... if she's stopped talking to you completely? Go with it. Go with NC and try to start to heal and move on.... unless and until you hear a message from her that clearly says she wants to try again. Link to comment
Zach42o1 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Share Posted February 1, 2013 so the stopping buy would be a bad idea then Link to comment
zep Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 If she broke up with you definitely don't stop by. All you can do to get her back is nothing. She dumped you, she needs to come to you. Link to comment
Zach42o1 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Share Posted February 1, 2013 yeah she just confused me to no end. when i asked her about it thats when she cut off contact. Link to comment
zep Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 Yea is she stopped talking to you after you asked her about her intentions than I think she's sending a very clear message she does NOT want to get back together or get closer. Definitely stay NC. Link to comment
Shane Falco Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 The pop-in is a tragically bad idea, especially this soon after a break. This is probably the second-to-last thing you should do, with stalking being the absolute worst. Link to comment
lavenderdove Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 No, never do a 'surprise' stop by... it may annoy her, she may have a date at her house, she may feel like you are stalking her. If you want to see her or talk to her, call her and leave her a message or send an email and see if she wants to meet up with you. If she says no, then you need to start working on letting go. Link to comment
Vinny85 Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 You will probably confuse her and also force her to answer a question that she still doesn't know the answer to. People that are confused and unsure about what to do tend to get annoyed when they are forced to decide. Link to comment
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