3 dates, no spark, what to say to let him down easily?

[Ami82]

Hey guys,

 

It's been a while since I dated as I was in a very serious long-term relationship for most of the past 2 years. Back in the dating game and a little bit older now, so I don't want to just go silent on people, esp after 3 nice dates.

 

He is lovely and sweet, but I'm just not attracted to him and there is no spark there. How do I say it in a nice way? He clearly was interested in me, he kissed me at the end of our date and said he had a great time. I don't want to hurt him more than is necessary.

 

Best way to progress?

 

Ami

[JJ2980]

You two have only been on 3 dates so don't feel too concerned about hurting his feelings. He may be disappointed a little but I doubt he'll have a nervous breakdown when you tell him that you didn't feel any sparks. Just be honest with him. "You're a nice guy and I've enjoyed your company but I don't feel like we have any sparks."

[Ayanokōji]

Hes a guy, he should be able to take the bad news =)

[annie24]

Tell him you don't feel a romantic connection and then wish him the best.

[mactownman]

Just be honest with him. That's all you can do. The way he handles it is not your problem.

[Abbykemp]

Don't ignore him just set him straight and say you aren't feeling a connection don't bullsh*t him with the 'great guy' stuff . He'll get over it.