lillady898 Posted November 2, 2004 Share Posted November 2, 2004 Okay, well... I broke up with my boyfriend today! After wondering for hours on end, I made my decision. I finally found the strength, which I am so proud of. I don't have a question, I just feel like sharing. First, it helps to learn about my situation... If you want, here is the link to one of them (otherwise you can look them up... there's quite a few I had about trying to break up): link removed It all started when he called and told me that next year he would be moving into an apartment with 3 people. Okay, fine. Then he added that it was with 2 guys and a girl. Okay, I can deal... Then he said, yes, they'd probably party a bit. Ohh no! I flipped, seeing as how he said he was D-O-N-E drinking, especially after the mistakes he's made. Then he had the nerve to say, "It's okay, we'll be just friends by then anyway." I hung up. Called a friend. Cried. Ripped stuff to shreads. Called him back. He had a big head, as if he had me wrapped around his finger. I started telling him I was upset (not even planning to break it off yet). He didn't care. I told him my heart was broken. He stopped listening. I went through all the reasons why I loved him. Still, not listening. I broke up with him. He didn't hear me, until after I said his name a few times. He laughed. I said, "I just broke up with you." His reply: "Oh." I went through the reasons why. I was both firm and friendly. I told him I would be okay, because I have the strength. I told him I'd do great things in my life. I told him, I still loved him. I told him that I had no regrets and would do it all over again if I could. I told him if he ever needed anyone to talk to, feel free to call. His reply? "I didn't think it would hurt this much." He broke down. We talked about it for a while. He spoke sincerely for the first time in weeks. I reminded him that "you never know what you have until it's gone." He then said, "I know it's probably too late, but I still want things to work out." We talked for an hour more. We decided to give it a chance, but I told him this: "If we're going to do this, we are BOTH going to put in the effort. I am not going to make it work on my own. We are going to be nice to eachother, and not degrade eachother. We will respect eachother and show eachother love. I am not going to retry only to set myself up for another heartbreak. If I see the same pattern coming back, it WILL end. You will learn the real meaning of unconditional love." He agreed, and now we are moving forward. He decided not to get that apartment, which is something big he is giving up. This is basically his college life he's messing with. He even admitted that he was not treating me the way I deserved, stating, "If you were as mean to me as I was to you, I'de probably even cry..." And he said that I deserve the best, because I am a really great girl. And he is prepared to be in this forever. I don't know if this whole thing was just a reality check or something for him, because I've never showed him how strong I really am. Before I go to bed tonigh, he has a surprise for me. I've gotta call him... I just hope this all works out!!... Quote Link to comment
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