Relationship falling apart

[cherryx]

Really need some advice on this one! Me and my boyfriend been together a year and 5 months and already have a 6 month old daughter. Things were fine up until my daughter was born, we got a house together and were intimate until the very end of pregnancy. Now things have changed completley. He hardly wants to touch me anymore, he can go hours sitting in the same room with me and our daughter without communicating at all with us - even when baby is crying there's no reaction. We argue constantly! We stopped arguing for a whole week but had a big blow out yesterday. After we both apologized for the argument he brought it up throughout the day stating all the things i do that wind him up - it's always my fault and he thinks im the only problem. We've both talked about seperating and both reluctant to do so! We both admit that we still love one another and would find the break up heart breaking! I love him and want to make it work, but there's no communication on his part, im miles away from family and feel isolated and want my little girl to have her family. I'm so miserable and depressed, i want to split but I know it'll kill me! Please help!!!

[Candyr]

Maybe you need to give him a day alone with your daughter so he can bind with her. Since she's a girl he may not know how to treat her. I can tell you that without communication you have no relationship. That's another key factor of a relationship, communication. Maybe you need a mediator, like counseling to help. If your not happy and depressed everyday and he ain't paying attention to you then take a time out away from each other so you can think clearly. I understand that whole family thing. I wanted that for my kids but my ex also wouldn't communicate with me. He'd ignore my feelings, roll his eyes, and would become very angry when I tried to speak about things that bothered me. Trust me I know it sucks, I'd cry everyday but then thought I need to get away. If he's not willing to talk or try and be a family, that means he doesn't want one. So his wish came true and I left with kids and all. It is hard and sad but you can't be depressed your whole life, staying with an unhappy relationship. It's not good for you or your baby to see you that way. Go with what your gut tells you. Think about it and the first answer you get is what you should do....