She's just contacted me...

[rich46]

Thanks kungfumaster!

 

You don't know that she even wants to get back with you! My guess is that she doesn't, but she wants to be on polite and civil terms. I think you are probably a little on the wild side, aren't you? A 6 to 12 month backpacking trip sounds like something a wild man does. If you truly are 23, I'd say make it six weeks and then come home and do something truly ADULT. Like getting a job.

Not true at all. This will be the first "wild" thing I've ever done. Maybe you should try it? Maybe you are quite happy to work 9-5, have 2.4 children, have a mortgage, then die. Personally, I want to experience things that are outside of my own little cocoon so I can look back in 40 years and think "Yeah I did something different." As for getting a job, I will be working in New Zealand for most of my trip as unfortunate as it is, money does not grow on trees.

 

I posted this thread for advice on whether to reply to my ex. NOT ON HOW TO LIVE MY LIFE. So as I never asked for your opinion on that, I feel all the more obliged to offer my opinion on this...Get A Life!

 

Thanks everyone else for your constructive advice. I did reply with a simple "thanks, I'm doing good" and so that is the end of it. I never for one moment said I thought she wanted to get back with me (otherwise I would have put it in the Getting Back Together forum).

 

Take care,

 

Rich

[auburnslp]

I agree with you Rich, that ohsvannah post was not only off the mark but a little rude...just ignore that kind of crap, don't even bother to respond to it, there is no room for "flaming" others on a site which is supposed to be us helping others...

 

Now, I think you did the right thing, as far as your response. I have myself just beenm contacted by my ex, after 3 months of NC, and I know it is a minor set-back. But it is minor, and we will move on again.

 

Have a great time on your trip! My best...Michael

[hockeyboy]

i agree..theres no need to be talking like that, it was rude. he seems to be supporting himself just fine, what do you care. good luck rich.

[rich46]

Thanks auburnslp and hockeyboy, I appreciate it!

[hockeyboy]

i just realized that i know for a fact that my ex does not have her daughter this weekend (something i had a problem with, she gives up her daughter to the grandparents everyother weekend, i never wanted her to go, i wanted to keep her as much as possible, i think ill be a better father then she will mother) but anyways...i know shell be spending her whole weekend w/ her new guy...and it doesnt bother me!! before this would kill me, knowing she could go out and do w/e she wanted, thats all i could think about..but now...i just dont really care...and it feels so good..i have my own life to worry bout. God, im happy.

[fantasia2004]

Fantasia! - I love it - the enquirer - I just died laughing - sometimes - you say the most hilarious things and I don't know where you get them!! haha! Hope you're doing well

 

just speaking from the truth and I am fine.kungfu!

 

to everyone when and if the ex calls stay aloof and don't tell them everything. trust me I know, because it happen to me, and you must learn from your mistakes. I did . Why because everytime my ex ask me if I ahd a job and I lied he knew right away if I was lying or I would etll him things and he would be smirking as if to say see how she is falling apart without me? I told you, it is a game between you them. Don't let them win ! You win By moving on and having fun by bettering yourself. That is what I am doing daily now . It is truly hard but I am getting close to my dreams. And crossing out things I have done already . Now the hard part finding an apartment and traveling more and working out !