new guy and nervousness

[thehardestpart]

I met a guy about 3 weeks ago, we haven't gone out yet, and he wants to meet up for a date. I'm not inexperienced by any means, but I'm just scared and nervous about seeing him again to the point where I will almost refuse to go. How silly is this? What can I do to calm myself down?

[MikNomis]

Think about how much you'll regret not having gone out with a decent guy if you turn him down for the sole reason of being nervous.

[Laura11111]

It's not silly. I think most people get nervous before a first date. Here are a few ideas:

1) Tell him you're always nervous on first dates. That way, it's out in the open which might make you feel more at ease.

2) Think about how you'd judge your date if he were nervous. Like most people, you'd probably be very understanding because you know most people get nervous on a first date. He should be just as understanding. If he's not, well, you probably don't want to date him.

3) Make a mental list of things to talk about, in case there is awkward silence. I think, being prepared will make you feel less nervous.

4) Burn away your adrenaline by jogging before the date. Jog until you can't jog no more. Make sure you shower after

5) If you've been on lots of first dates and they went well, remind yourself of how well they went. Why should this one be any different?

 

Good luck