Does she like me or not?????

[X-boy]

There's this girl at school i like.I used to start small convrsations with her and all and once or twice she started the conversations.Sometimes when I'm there she makes slight eye contact and sometimes she like bows her head,but i dont know if she likes me or not?

The problem is that i'm from the UAE.Here like the boys and girls study in separate classes and nobody talks with girls.So I can't even ask her friends.

There's one more thing.First this girl used to like me but I didn't know it.Then she had a crush on another boy for 1-2 months.But recently when my friend's sister asked her she said that she doesn't have a crush on anybody.Now my friend is in another school.So somebody tell me if she likes me or not?Also tell me how i can let her know that I like her without others knowing?Thanks a million.

[Rain]

Well from what i'm getting is that you're not getting enough hints to make a judgement whether she likes you or not. I think that your small convosations should sprout into much more interesting convosations. If you can find time after school and approach her. Talk to her about anything, sports, weather, or maybe compliment her hair or clothes. Just find something a girl would listen to. Be yourself and have a high confidence.

 

Just talk and you'll figure it out

[X-boy]

I would have done that but as I said in UAE boys and girls never talk publicaly.If parents know or friends know it could lead to problems.Anyway thanks for the advice.

[X-boy]

A girl advice would be welcome becomes nobody understands a girl better than a girl

[Kitz]

Hmm... are you both 13?

 

Its sort of hard to tell, really. The fact that she had a crush on you once is good, because if she's anything like me, she might still not be over that crush.. I never really get over mine. =P Ignore the fact that she said she doesn't have a crush on anyone at the moment, 'coz thats usually something we only tell our besties, so if your friend's sister isn't that close to her (or is known to tell everyone she sees quicker than she can say "I promise not to tell") she would've just denied it.

 

To me it sounds like she's shy.. its tough seeing as you go to a school where the girls and boys dont talk to eachother, but I think you should try and talk to her more, maybe write her a note, asking her what she's doing on the weekend or something and go from there. You never know what could happen.

[Kitz]

Oh, yeah, BTW, can I just ask why girls and boys dont talk at your school? Is it against the rules, or has no one gotten out of the cooties stage, or what?

[X-boy]

Like in the US of A or in other countries they might do it.But this is a arab country and like boys in girls think that if they talk to girls they will die or something.Even the teachers are against it.This happens not only in my school but in all the schools and like nobody below the age of 18 goes on a date.Only like 1 boy who is my friend has a g/f.He helped me find her phone no.But icant call her because there will be a problem if parents know.I'm the only one who knows he has a g/f and he's the only one who knows i like this girl.So even she likes me this relationship should be top secret.And as for giving notes is that others girls will ask her what it is and will read it.This will just lead to her being teased.I don't want that to happen.maybe thats why she doesn't talk to me or look at me in school.Anyway i live near her house so i used to roam around the area hoping that i meet her.Anyway thanks for the advice Kitz .Got any other ideas?

 

(p.s. I'm 13 but she's 14)

[Kitz]

Hmm, yeah, to me it does sound like she's just really shy, considering that boys and girls don't talk much if at all. I can relate to her a bit actually, seeing as I used to be her age once and, having never really spoken to a guy before, it was like they were a completley different species (XD) and I found it hard to look them in the eye, especially the ones I liked.

 

Hmmm.. It seems a bit of a tough situation for you, doesn't it?

Ask your friend how he asked his girlfriend out and how he keeps their relationship secret -- he's done it and if no one knows about it, his technique obviously works, so i'd be doing whatever it is he is. Anyway, I think there is a possibility of her still liking you, though becuase you two dont really get a chance to talk to eachother, you never really know.. I think you should go for it anyway, if you ever get the chance. Dont stop wandering around near her house every day! XD

[X-boy]

Thanks.Today in school i noticed that whenever i'm there and even though her friend are there she asks me to tell her what to do or help her,etc.There was also a poem recitation competitions in which she made eyecontact from the start to the end of my poem.But today when i sat in front of her looking at her in the school bus she just made eye contact once.I just can't understand her.And i'll try wht my friend did.If you've got anyother suggestions Kitz or anybody please post it here.Thanks

[X-boy]

Now what's happening is that somehow all the girls in her class have become my friends and talk with me.But she does not.what can i do?

[disguisedpixie]

Just tell her you like her! You have nothing to lose. And i know that when i was that age, i never got over crushes very quickly! Go for it!

[X-boy]

Thanks for the advice disguisepixie.But i don't think you understood the problem.Please read the whole topic.Then you will understand why i can't do that.Anyway thanks.

[disguisedpixie]

You did say that the boys couldn't talk to the girls, but in the last post, you said all her friends were talking to you but she wasn't. I don't understand! Can you talk or not?

[X-boy]

Like nobody talks because you will me made fun of.Whenever i have to tell them some thing about school they tell me something else and a small conversation starts.It might just take 15-20 seconds.But when ever i tell her something she just bows her head says ok.Last time i had to tell them about a student council meeting.So one of their class girl was out so i told her to inform the others.But then they opened the door and asked me to come and tell them.Only when i went and told them did they come for the meeting.Whenever i go to their class the girls start giggling or smiling but as always she bows her head.I can do this because when my friends ask me why i am talking with the girls i say that i had to tell them about some school work because i'm the boy's side house captain and she's the girls side house captain(how lucky).Hope you understand the situation.

[disguisedpixie]

Oh i see. From what you've said, she really does like you. But because of the conditions in your school i can't advise you how to talk to her about it. Maybe you should talk to your friend who has a girlfriend and find out from him how he did it, like someone else mentioned earlier. Good luck

[X-boy]

I also thought of that.This is how he did it.He made friends with a boy who had a sister in the same class.Then through the boy's sister he started a relationship.I said that only i knew that he had a g/f.He didn't come and tell me that.Once like he was talking to her and that's how i found out.But he is a .He(x) doesn't want anybody else to have a g/f.Another of my friend liked a girl.What x did was that he said all bad things about my friend to the girl and she stopped liking him.When like he found out that i like this girl he must have done the same thing because his g/f's cousin is in the class.But luckily i don't thing the girl i like believed him.So you see i can't trust him to help me with the matter.Also like when the girl i like talks to me i want to make her want to talk with me more and more.Any ideas to know if she likes me(i'm still not sure.Maybe i didn't read her properly) and to cement the bond and to make her want to talk with me?

[X-boy]

Mr x is trying to steal the girl i like.He understood that i'm making some progress.So he is always trying to make her laugh or talk with her.She's not talking with him more than she talks with him.But better safe than sorry.What are the chances that she could like him?I'm desperate.Is there any way to impress her to such an extent that she makes it clear that she likes me?Anything will do.Thanks

[Kitz]

Hmm.

Try going to google, looking up 'Does she like me' or 'flirting signs'. There are the classic ones, like flipping her hair over her shoulder, sitting up straight when she notices you looking at her, things like that -- then watch her, see if she does those things around you (or around him). Hope that helps.

[X-boy]

Towards him she doesn't do that.I think he has understood that she will never like him because he stopped sitting near her and all( Oh happy day our school we have a board in which we have to write a different proverb everyday.Today i went to write a proverb.The proverb i wrote was a long one.So the girl i like asked me to write a smaller one.Then she suggested one.She told me that if i liked it i could write it.I immediately said that i like it and wrote it.Now was there anything i could have said to make it obvious to her that i like her?

[Kitz]

Not that I can think of.. she'll probably be flattered you liked the proverb and wrote it, though. most guys I can think of would just get all defensive and say 'no, that sucks!' and keep on writing the one that they were before..

I think you should just keep trying to talk to her. If in your school, boys talking to girls really is that rare, if you keep attempting to at least make small-talk with her, she should get the hint eventually. She'll feel more comfortable around you than with any other guy who hasn't spoken to her much, anyway.

 

And yay! I'm glad the other guy backed off.

[X-boy]

I don't know why but more and more opportunities are coming.This month on 26th class 10 is going on a field trip.From the 9th grade me my 3 friends the girl i like her 4-5 friends are going.Girls and boys will be talking with each other because we got to do research.Any way to impress her while on the trip?One more thing.Normally this girl use to sit in front of me.But then i shifted to the right.Then it was like,her,her friend,one more of her friends then me.But today she told them to move and now its like her then me.Whats up with that?Thanks a million.

[X-boy]

Me and my friends are going to keep a party on the last day of our exams.So i thought of inviting her.She used to go to the mall and we going to keep it in the mall.How are you supposed to ask her? I really want her to come.I'll even invite some of her friends.Any help will be appreciated.

[X-boy]

My good friend who is her family friend did the stupidest thing ever!!! He went and told her that i like her and asked if she likes me. She just started smiling and laughing.Now whenever she or her friends see me they start smiling.What the heck can i do???

[X-boy]

I just talked with her and i made her understand that i didn't tell him to do it.She knows that i like her.When i was telling it to her we were alone and she was ust smiling and laughing.She said she knows that i didn't tell him to do it.Now that she knows that i like her, what can i do to make her like me?Somebody please tell me what to do?Thanks