babybear Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 I've been with my boyfriend 6-7months. When we spend time together it's amazing and I feel on top of the world. But after he leaves I get all insecure and have negative thinking and question whether I want to be in the relationship. I obsess over ex girlfriends, get annoyed when he's with friends so not able to talk on the phone in the evenings, feel paranoid about his whereabouts, and just generally feel really negative about him. But it's the absolute opposite when we are together. He hasn't given me any reason to be paranoid but did over-share a lot of harmless stories and info about ex girlfriends in the beginning of our relationship which didn't bother me then when I wasn't emotionally attached but bothers me now as I remember everything. I just cried because I spoke to him on the phone and he's off for three days but was really hesitant about seeing me saying he's just spent two days with me and doesn't want to spend all his time with me. I felt really rejected and annoyed thinking well he's spending all his time with other people why am i bottom on the list just to see him for one/out of three days? Then i said why can't i see him friday and he said he could see me then. I know 100% i am controlling and have issues. But the above things that upset me are so painful I literally feel like someone is ripping my heart out. The slightest thing can trigger me into thinking I should dump him like him not wanting to see me then. Advice? Link to comment
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