Applewhite Posted November 2, 2011 Share Posted November 2, 2011 I am starting to think a therapist may be the last resort to fixing my relationship with my mom (or having one at all for that matter). I have restricted access to my life and communications with her due to her constant judging and manipulating, and my anger and unresolved issues from the past (We were all abused by my father, and she never protected me). As little as she knows about my life and who I am, she still finds ways to judge and try to manipulate me and she expects that we have a normal relationship despite this. She claims she doesn't even know what she is doing when I confront her about judging me. If I tell her to not judge me for example she will say that she wasn't judging me, that I must've forgotten my native language since I apparently misunderstood (which is still , judging and criticizing! Am I nuts here?). I will even offer to pay for our therapy sessions is she will come. If she refuses however (with excuses such as time, or what if someone hears etc) which I suspect she might do, I think I am done. Should I tell her that if she refuses I am done? There is no way, under the current circumstances that I can have a relationship with her. As much as this makes her sad, of course it makes me sad too and angry at the same time. Link to comment
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