What should I do?

[quietshyguy]

Need advice please!

 

My situation is:

 

I am currently living with an 18 year old girl (I myself am 19), and we have been renting a place together for 3 months now. We both decided to move in together as a means of security- we both moved to a city where neither of us really knew anybody.

 

I have known this girl most of my life and since we moved in together we have become best of friends, and I feel that she is a closer friend than others whom I have known for years.

 

Until we moved in together, I was unaware that she was in a long term relationship (how long I don't know). However, her boyfriend now lives 4 hours away and about 2 months ago they both decided that they should go their separate ways due to the strain put on their relationship from being apart.

 

Recently, I have fallen for this girl but being a shy and quiet guy I am too afraid to tell her how I feel because I am not certain as to whether she still has hope for her ex-boyfriend and herself.

She calls him a couple of times a week and they talk for hours, but on the other hand when we casually talk with other friends she says that she's currently not with anyone. I really want to be with this girl but I don't want to say or do anything that might compromise our friendship or upset her.

 

I have on a few occasions tried to express my feelings for her but she seems to avoid the topic.

 

Any advice please would be much appreciated.

 

quietshyguy

[kaliguy80]

my best bet would to first find out if she wants a b/f or not. being single doesn't mean she wants to be in a relationship and if she is single and looking then one day just tell her that u have something important to tell her and let her know how u feel about it. whats the worst that can happen? she will say no, but atlest u will find out if she wants u or not. and if no then oh well, u still have her as a friend and u can go somewhere else to find the gal u r looking for. its better to let someone know about the feelings u have for them instead of keeping it instead and letting it grow. because in the end it will come get u. good luck.

[quietshyguy]

Thanks for the advice. You have made very valid points that I think will help me out.

 

quietshyguy