My Gf puts herself down

[Dave23]

Here is my problem, I have been going out with a brilliant attractive girl, who keeps putting herself down. Most of the time she is smart and funny but every once and a while she becomes paranoid that she isnt pretty enough, skinny enough ect... How can i make her feel special and make her see what i see in her?

 

I know it is probaly normal for all girls to want to be that little bit better but I want to help her out, and although she thinks that she isnt pretty, I want her to believe me when i tell her that she is. I need to build up her confidence but i have no idea how

 

plz help

[talon_9333]

Ya know, i'm having the same problem with my girlfriend. She's absolutely perfect but her previous boyfriends used to talk about how hot other girls were in front of her, and it kinda destroyed her confidence. I'd also like some help in how to raise her self esteem.

[StrawTink]

if you just remember that all girls require reassurance every day that they are loved and beautiful. show them that and give them time to gain confidence in themselves then you are doing the great boyfriend thing.

[Dave23]

I compliment and tell her i love her all the time,

It is harder than that, she used to be chubby as a child but when she asked how she looked people lied to her and sed she looked gr8. So now even, tho she has worked so hard and is absolutely gorgeous, she wont take compliments. I need to do something bigger, so there is no doubt in her mind how i feel, and to make her feel better about herself

[Dave23]

Any advice ?

[aireyc]

A little anxious are you? You can't really change how she thinks, but I suggest you do something over-the-top that shows her how much you care. I think if she realizes how much you care no matter how she looks she won't mind as much, pretty or not. Do something super-special for her like give her a gift/go out to dinner and just make her the star of the year. She may realize she is in your heart and she will hopefully stop caring about any imperfections that she has, even if they are just made up.

 

Chris