Aloneagain10 Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 I dated my ex for 3 years i loved her very much. She met me at work and started to sms me, while i was with my then girlfriend. She became my friend by sms, until my former ex broke up with me. I started dating my current ex at first she was very in love with me, or so i thought. After some months people from my work told her that i had plans to inmigrate to Canada. she started to cry told me that i was gona leave her. So i sugested she came with me , and she agreed. I helped her with the papers, and agreed to lend her 900 dollars to that end. She has a house maid that she calls her cousin tho whom she is very atached to, she called her for everyting, to decide what colour of clothes to buy, etc. She even got a bank dept of 2500 dollars after her parents fired her. When i finded out i was upset, after all she planed to go with me, she needed to save money right, but i helped her to pay the credid cards and to consolidate her dept in one place. she changed after 11 months she became more distant. I thought that she was like that, I ashed her and her cousin if she felt the same and she said that yes, they both assured me i was paranoid. About 6 months before her trave she becae more extrange, althought she said taht she loved me, she started to pick up fights for little things, like if i ddnt buy her some lays at the movies. When we traveled together on vacations she twice left me and returned alone to the hotel, acussing me of taking her photos bad on purpose. Of course i didnt, i loved her!!, i even try to fix things by offering to retake those she didnt like. but she refussed. i told her that to me, if i went with someone it was to be with her, not for the photos, that she wasnt a model on a bussines trip. 25 days before her travel she surpriced me by telling me that her parents had bought the tickets to Canada. And by refussing to tell me the adress were she was going to stays, she first said that she didnt knew, then that she wasnt authoriced and that i could cause trouble. To clarify things, im a nice guy, I never got into any problems with anyone, i didnt bother her at her house, nor did i ever called her afterhours in here. I ask her to take some papers to Canada for me, she agreed if i lend her more money to cure her house maid, because she said her parents wouldnt. i did. she travelled there, and on monday she told me that acording to her guest I lost my residency, that she would not present my papers. i got angry and she broke up with me. I left pass one day and her housemaid sended me an sms. my ex didnt want to see me anymore, she began to date a guy she met at the bank there, she told her maid that she would wait to get intimate for him to respect her. I was sooo shaken!! I could not believe this!! She called me the next days from Canada and told me, please contact with my maid, ask her to call me, she was using me as her messenger, i got mad and recriminate her. She wrote me then and told me taht i used her for sex, that i cheated with my first ex. And that was sooo false!. My first ex was lesbian and come out after being with me, after made me loose 3 years !! i would never ever be back, and she knew. I try to send her mails to explain things , and she replied back saying that i was harrasing her, and to stop. that i should not go to canada, that they dont want people on welfare!!, that my family should be exterminated!!. i didnt wrote her anymore. Sometime after she contacted me on messenger, told me that i was a loser old and ugly under sexed. that she was with that new guy, that he had her come everytime, that he was soo much better. I went to her parents ask them to mediate to find a solution for the money a lend her that she had become mad at me. i still loved her, but wanted to close everything and pass the page. they told me that she said that i gift her the money!, but oferred to call her and that she would call me back she didnt, and i called her parents, they told me by phone that the money was a gift according to her, that dont ever call back or i would have legal trouble and i didnt want that if i got a visa right? I stoped calling and any contact but for months tought what made her hate me so much? why she acted like that? I never cheated, i only got out with a friend to the cinema to chat but that was it, even if someone went to her to gossip, that didnt suffy dont you thing. Did she ever loved me?, nobody could be so rude if they ever loved isnt it? how could i trust anyone? Link to comment
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