NG85 Posted July 19, 2011 Share Posted July 19, 2011 I had been talking to this girl on OKC for about 2 weeks, and things were going well. I sent her a message asking her if she'd like to meet up, and she got back to me asking what I'd like to do and where I live. I sent her a message with an idea and a day I'll be free (Which was in about a week). The last time we spoke was last Thursday. She had been really prompt with responding to emails, but so far I haven't received a response from her, even though almost every time I log into OKC I see she's online. Should I send her a follow-up message at some point asking if she got my last message and is still down to meet up? Here's another factor I'm worried about - I had to explain my location to her. I'm planning to move shortly, and as such I set my location as my desired location, which is also the city she lives in. I currently live about a half hour away, and I explained this to her, but without fail I'm in her city weekly. A lot of people on OKC do this, but the messages from her stopped once I explained this to her. Could this have messed things up? Link to comment
CelticMetal Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 This happened to me on OKC a couple of times. We would be emailing daily and then all of a sudden I didn't hear anything after several days. I wonder if they were talking to a few guys at a time and started dating one of them. I followed up about a week later and just got a vague response that they were busy but didn't get any emails back after that. I suppose there's no harm in sending another message but since you said she's been online I wouldn't expect much. Good luck whatever you do. Link to comment
strangerdanger Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 Everyone is flakey on online dating. I might feel cool about talking to someone one day- and not the next. I think it's because you just don't know the stranger on the other side of the mail- and that makes it easy to flake. Don't take it personally if someone gets flakey- happens all the time. Girls get hundreds of messages a month You have nothing to lose- it's online dating- if you want to send her ONE reminder message- go ahead. She's probably talking to a lot of people. You'll never stand out until you have a meeting. Don't send one more than one reminder message- it annoys me when guys do that on POF. Link to comment
NG85 Posted July 20, 2011 Author Share Posted July 20, 2011 Everyone is flakey on online dating. I might feel cool about talking to someone one day- and not the next. I think it's because you just don't know the stranger on the other side of the mail- and that makes it easy to flake. Don't take it personally if someone gets flakey- happens all the time. Girls get hundreds of messages a month You have nothing to lose- it's online dating- if you want to send her ONE reminder message- go ahead. She's probably talking to a lot of people. You'll never stand out until you have a meeting. Don't send one more than one reminder message- it annoys me when guys do that on POF. Yeah, I'd just send one follow-up, then that's it. I figure there may be a chance she might have her email backed up, or she could have misplaced my message unintentionally, etc. So I asked her out for this Friday - Should I send her a follow-up before or after Friday? I wonder if it'd look less "desperate" if I sent her one after the supposed meet up date. Link to comment
Shudder Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 sometimes its hard to gauge how interested someone really is with online dating, which is why i normally meet them asap to avoid any built up but false expectations. you also know fairly early if they are wasting your time or serious. I never talked to someone online for 2 weeks before meeting though. I'd probably flake out myself after a while as I get bored fast exchanging emails back and forth Link to comment
NG85 Posted July 20, 2011 Author Share Posted July 20, 2011 sometimes its hard to gauge how interested someone really is with online dating, which is why i normally meet them asap to avoid any built up but false expectations. you also know fairly early if they are wasting your time or serious. I never talked to someone online for 2 weeks before meeting though. I'd probably flake out myself after a while as I get bored fast exchanging emails back and forth Yeah, coordinating schedules is always the hard part. I'm very rarely free on the weekdays, so I schedule all my social activities for the weekend. If the girl is busy that weekend, we have to re-schedule for the weekend after. So it might be 2 or 3 weeks before we meet. It sucks, but I guess that's the price of being busy 20-somethings. The other problem I find is messing everything up by asking them out too quickly. That freaks them out. I need to work on finding a happy medium. Link to comment
NG85 Posted July 21, 2011 Author Share Posted July 21, 2011 Just bumping to see if anyone else had any suggestions. Link to comment
orchidrose Posted July 21, 2011 Share Posted July 21, 2011 Typically if I stop responding, it's because I've met someone and am dating them, or would like to date them more than I'd like to date you; I've been genuinely busy and unable to think about dating; or I learned something about you that made me want to stop conversing - for example, a guy once told me in his fifth or sixth message that he lives on the complete opposite side of town from me, and I live in a huge city with no car, so that's a dealbreaker. That said, I did once have a guy send a follow-up message a week or so after we last spoke - I had been extraordinarily busy at work and hadn't replied to him - that said "Hey, I was really looking forward to meeting you. Hope we can schedule something soon." That reminded me about him and I thought it was kind of sweet. We went out on one date, but didn't hit it off. Link to comment
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