tulipsfav Posted February 19, 2011 Share Posted February 19, 2011 Well i found out tonight that a guy who had shown interest in me only wanted me as a fwb (friend with benefits) this is most certainly not the type of relationship i want. I feel that he does not respect, said if that is not what i want then it would be better to delete his number, i have deleted it.What are your thoughts on this? Link to comment
goodkarma_1 Posted February 19, 2011 Share Posted February 19, 2011 Complete jerk off. He even suggested that you delete his number...unbelievable. He is not worth your time ever again. Do yourself a favor and move on. Be happy that he told you think sooner rather than later...actually you should thank him for not wasting another minute of your life. Sorry I know it sucks, hang in. Link to comment
tulipsfav Posted February 19, 2011 Author Share Posted February 19, 2011 Complete jerk off. He even suggested that you delete his number...unbelievable. He is not worth your time ever again. Do yourself a favor and move on. Be happy that he told you think sooner rather than later...actually you should thank him for not wasting another minute of your life. Sorry I know it sucks, hang in. Thankyou, posted a thread recently about not being good enough, but i know i am too good for him. He wants fun! Link to comment
thebluest Posted February 19, 2011 Share Posted February 19, 2011 Oh what a jerk! Doesn't even want to associate with you if you don't want to be FWB. Seriously, what a tool. Link to comment
Ebrithil Posted February 19, 2011 Share Posted February 19, 2011 FWB is all well and good if its what both people want but 9 times out of 10 it ends badly and can ruin friendships and from my own personal point of veiw I think those types of relationships tend to be disrespectful of at least one member if not both. I think that any relationship is built on a foundation of friendship so FWb or proper relationship if hes not going to be a friend to you at all then he cant ever have more than that. Although you feel used and a little hurt from being rejected as a friend for simply saying you want something more meaningful than occasional sex with no attachments your better off this way in the long run, you have rid yourself or at least realised that he is shallow so you havent wasted too much time and energy on a dead end. Dont feel to bad about all of this its just a bump in the road and I'm sure somone more meaningful will enter into your life sooner rather than later. Link to comment
Arany Posted February 19, 2011 Share Posted February 19, 2011 Be sooo thankful he told you, if nothing else, he is a good person in one way for telling you. Count yourself lucky that you were not deceived and will not have to deal with putting back together your broken heart, piece by piece, day by day for god knows how long Link to comment
tulipsfav Posted February 20, 2011 Author Share Posted February 20, 2011 it is guys like this that give guys a bad name. Im looking for a relationship, that includes friendship, laughter, excitement and most of all respect. I treat people with respect and i do expect it in return. He wanted a hassel free hook up, am glad i found out now. Thankyou for your reply Link to comment
dramallama Posted February 20, 2011 Share Posted February 20, 2011 Next time wait until you are in a relationship before having sex, then this won't happen. He's gotten what he wants now and you're feeling used. But you are just as much to blame for not having boundaries. Link to comment
tulipsfav Posted February 20, 2011 Author Share Posted February 20, 2011 Next time wait until you are in a relationship before having sex, then this won't happen. He's gotten what he wants now and you're feeling used. But you are just as much to blame for not having boundaries. Ah hello, i did not have sex with him!! He most certainly did not get what he wanted from me. This obviously seems to be the problem with guys that i meet, my boundaries are too high!! So i do find myself very lucky to not have even began a relationship with him. Link to comment
dramallama Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 Oh ok. My bad. In that case, hold your head high that you were able to say "no" to someone that just wanted to use your body, instead of learning what else there is to you. Your boundaries are not too high. You just have to hold out until you meet someone that is happy to have you as the whole package and you will be glad that you waited for them. Link to comment
guanyu4u Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 If u r feeling that way, so be it. I'm not saying that friends with benefits is a bad or a good thing. It's something we choose to have. If he happened to call u or run by u just tell him it'll not work out between u 2. Link to comment
Betteroffalone Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 Well i found out tonight that a guy who had shown interest in me only wanted me as a fwb (friend with benefits) this is most certainly not the type of relationship i want. I feel that he does not respect, said if that is not what i want then it would be better to delete his number, i have deleted it.What are your thoughts on this? wow, what a douche. Guys like that arnt worth the air they breathe. You dodged a huge bullet there, be happy Link to comment
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