Lonewulv13 Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 I recently met a girl on an online dating site. The weird thing is, she initiated contact first. Then she gave me her email, and we're talking now. We've been talking for about an hour, and I've asked every question so far, and shes asked nothing of me........ I can't imagine shes shy, considering she talked to me first/ gave me her email..... is there something im doing wrong?... Any advice would be great. Link to comment
GotMyLifeBack Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 Don't knock yourself out. I pull the trigger pretty fast on girls like that. You want someone who wants to get to know you, right? Link to comment
Lonewulv13 Posted February 10, 2011 Author Share Posted February 10, 2011 Exactly. but its funny, we've just had the deepest convo..... XD. The deepest i'd ever had with someone I've never met. I think its all good now. But It's good to know im not alone in getting that feeling Link to comment
Lonewulv13 Posted February 14, 2011 Author Share Posted February 14, 2011 Well its good to see my thread hasn't moved much XD . But Im kind of confused now. Im talking to the same girl, and things are still weird... Sometimes, we'll have a great deep convo, then we can goof off and have wars on "who can create the most spaces down the page", then sometimes, shes very cold and uninterested. making short, predictable responses. Seriously, I find my self saying what she does, before she even says it.... A lot... It almost seems as though shes doing it on purpose, then we'll get into a fun/deep convo..... So Im really confused. For example, I asked her what she was up to, she said she was playing guitar/ singing, I asked her about it, showing general interest (Because I am interested..), Then I tell her I just went with my buddy to get his puppy, and she says........ "cool".............Not a "wow thats neat" or "what kind?".............just............. "cool". It just seems like she purposefully trying to seem uninterested..... If we never had fun or deep convos, then I'd obviously just screw off and forget it.... but we do..... Please help Link to comment
fitforlife Posted February 15, 2011 Share Posted February 15, 2011 Haha! I know exactly what you mean and then some. Unfortunately this is killer for me when engaging conversation with females. It creates awkward silence, and a boring conversation. To keep a conversation rolling requires two people, not one. So don't feel bad.... I "met" this girl on a dating site last night and put her on my facebook. So we're talking, I'm asking her a bunch of questions, and I'm getting simple answers/replies with nothing back. I mean, I ask her where she works and she tells me "I work at this store". And that's it. She could have said something like "I work at this store, how about you?". That is essentially how the entire conversation went. She eventually said "You ask a lot of questions", which kind of pissed me off. Maybe if you could actually hold a conversation I wouldn't have to be playing the "host" of the game show. It is really boring, and especially frustrating, when this happens. If a girl asked me where I worked, I would tell her, and then ask her where she works. From there I would ask if she likes it, she would ask in return, and then we would have a conversation roll from there for hours. I could easily take a conversation talking about work to talking about family, personal values, and pretty much anything else. It makes me irritated at times when I ask someone their thoughts, what they like to do, what's important to them, etc. and you only get a one worded answer/reply back. Or, maybe it's a cheesy way to say "I'm not interested in you". Link to comment
Melting Posted February 15, 2011 Share Posted February 15, 2011 I can only speak on my behalf here, but if I am not asking questions to a guy, its usually because I am not interested. Link to comment
fitforlife Posted February 15, 2011 Share Posted February 15, 2011 I can only speak on my behalf here, but if I am not asking questions to a guy, its usually because I am not interested. This is what I figured. I was pulling strings with this girl to get her to engage back in some sort of conversation. I would ask her where she worked, what she enjoys doing, what bands she likes, and she would answer but would never say "and yourself?" in return. An obvious sign she's not interested (or she's boring and has no idea how to maintain a conversation), but I suspect the first - not interested. I suspect (and hope) this one is going to just fade away until either I delete her or she deletes me from facebook. I will probably just let it ride out and wait for her to delete me, besides I did all the hard work asking questions anyways. Link to comment
wsim Posted February 15, 2011 Share Posted February 15, 2011 Just ignore her. It looks like she can't be bothered to get to know you better. When girls don't answer my questions repeatedly or make an effort to ask any of their own, I take it as not interested and move on. Don't waste your time. Link to comment
BillyV Posted February 19, 2011 Share Posted February 19, 2011 When she's not asking questions or trying to get to know you, ask "So do you have any questions for me? Is there anything you're curious to know?" If she has nothing, ditch her. Like some other people said, it takes two to tango. Link to comment
guanyu4u Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 I find myself sometimes having the investigator role. All questions from me, that is simply cuz I answer with my own comments as well. U might have what I have. U can ask her if she have any question she wants to ask u. Be casual and clear. Link to comment
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