Serious Relationship, Strip Clubs, NEED OPINIONS!!!

[the_tiger_striped_cat]

Ok I'm going to give a slightly different opinion.

 

First of all. You need to make sure that YOU don't have trust/jealously issues with this. It's good that he asked you, it's good that he also sees it a big deal. But talking about strip clubs is tantamount to talking about abortion sometimes--it's amazing how diametrically opposed the viewpoints are.

 

Anyways. Can you think of ANY circumstance under which it would be ok for him to go. What if his buddies took him there as a surprise, and it was all of the sudden? What if it was somone else's Bachlor party? What if it was his batchlor party? What if he wants to appreciate the female body the same way he looks at a painting of a nude woman. Ok, I know that's a strech, but I want you to make sure you understand the reason it bothers you. Is there ANY excuse he can give? Are you worried because he's going there, or is it because you're worried that he might like it? Is there something inherently wrong about going there? Is it immoral? Is it considered cheating? What about porn? What about porn when your 1000 miles away and he just want's to be with you? Do you trust him to love you, and have male emotions while there, BUT AT THE SAME TIME STILL LOVE YOU WITH ALL HE IS?

 

But you're soooo right. If it really makes you feel uncomfortable he should respect that, and there's no excuse he can give. I can see being worried if you're relationship is having problems, or he does this on a regular basis, or that he might really want to go. Because if you love him and he loves you, yet you still don't trust that his love and lust for you can endure something as stupid as a strip club, then I think YOU have some things you need to work on.

 

 

Just a "what if" that's all.

[June4life]

Trust isnt an issue. I trust him with everything I have.

 

I just dont want him looking at other naked women. Is that so much to ask in a relationship?

[the_tiger_striped_cat]

Ok just playing devils advocate here. But we all know you don't want him looking at naked women. So saying that doesn't explain anything.

 

You need to get to the bottom of your reason why? Why don't you want him looking at naked women?

 

Realize that many other women are ok with their bf looking at naked women, so don't make it sound like it's obvious to want this in a relationship.

 

So why do you think this is so important to you?

 

But like I said, I do think he should respect your wishes. But at the same time, you should know why it bothers you so much. If it's not trust, what is it?

[NittanyKitten]

It's a strip club. It's where guys go sometimes to have a good time and be guys!!! have you ever considered being the one to take him there? I have a friend who took her bf to a strip club as a surprise. So she had to sit there while women danced and stuff around her man. She still had fun, and it actually gave her ideas for later that night!

 

If you were to actually let him go, you could plot ideas to surprse him with when he gets home! You'll prolly have quite an interesting evening...

 

But like tiger said... you need to figure out what it really is that is bothering YOU about him going. Not the fact that he's going, or that women will be stripping, but the core reason this bothers you. Because if trust isn't an issue, then there really shouldn't be a problem. Personally, I think you may have a jealousy problem. Easy solution... let him go, and put that jealousy to good use!!! Plan a rather fun, interesting evening for when he gets home.