Can't Keep It Up

[RaeBae004]

My boyfriend and I tried to have sex today...but when it came to it he went limp...I felt so bad but he said I didn't do anything wrong ...It was his first time atempting to have sex...Early before we tried to have sex I gave him a handjob and he got blue balls ...How many guys does the going limp thing happen to... Is there anything we can do about this..

 

Please Help!

[Beec]

Wow, at that age, it is a little surprising. But, it can happen.

 

First, make sure you are ready for what you are doing and also make sure you use a condom.

 

Second, realize that it could happen because he is worried about it happening. It's his head that is the issue, not what you did. Ask him what he was thinking about or just have him think about what was in his head.

 

This is why the make viagra, et al. products, but the real issue is in his head, so you need to address that. Specifically, there are hynosis tapes that can help. But otherwise, I have no idea.

[S4il]

I think it's one of the 2

 

1. He is just nervous, Nothing you did wrong, over time he will be able to pass that feeling, and will be keeping everything on the UP side if you know what i mean.

 

2. Or he came early (pre-ejaculation) even before you gave him a hand job, It can happen. atleast i think it can.. when that occurs his sexual drive was lost, recovery usually takes 45 min, sometimes more sometimes less.

 

just a thought..