Sex with a guy makes my stomach churn

[rhawk2]

I was just reading a post about someone who is completely uninterested in sex and thought "That's me!!" But she posted she's never had a boyfriend or been a little bit sexual (or at least that's what I gleamed from the post.) To clear things up from the get-go, I am 19, bi, and have been sexual with both a girl and guy but wouldn't call it sex. Just messing around....naked.

The question I have is this: I find guys super attractive. I see a hot guy and get hot and bothered. I can imagine getting pretty steamy with him, but when it comes to the getting naked part, it really makes me sick. I would like to have a serious boyfriend eventually but I'm really afraid I won't be able to have sex with him because his "junk" makes me want to vomit.

With girls its different. I don't mind going "all the way" with a girl. I would even date a girl, but ultimately I want to end up with a guy I'm just afraid that I'm going to be to disgusted by having sex with him to even get that far into a relationship. I guess I'm asking if there's anyone else that's like this, or was. How do/did you deal with it?

[Fudgie]

Well, what do you find gross about it? I think understanding where these thoughts/feelings come from is crucial. Did you have a bad past experience at all?

[rhawk2]

No, I've never been abused, haven't grown up in a hyper-religious home. Like I said, I've gone pretty far with a guy but it wasn't a bad experience. I did leave feeling like "that was just weird." Everything that lead up to sex was fine, but when it got to that point, I didn't let it happen because it was actually turning me off.

[Cognitive_Canine]

Why don't you want to end up with a girl? Seems like it is probably the more natural thing for you.

[rhawk2]

I've thought about that. But I don't want to end up with a girl. I can't see myself growing old with a girl. It's a huge conflict of interests I guess. Sex with guys bothers me but I want "that guy" to spend my life with.

[Cognitive_Canine]

Could you be in a sexless relationship with a guy? Maybe find an asexual.

[Fudgie]

I'd explore also why you feel like you can't spend the rest of your life with a girl...

[blackdog280]

Maybe you should considerate on the physical feelings that come with having sexual intercourse with a man rather than the visual aspect to overcome the repulsiveness you feel.

[YakasJourney]

Are you afraid of penises for some reason? Why do you refer to them as "junk"? Sexual attraction involves a whole person for me. I'm attracted to women but I'm not particularly fond of staring at just a vagina. Genitalia are just body parts designed to fit together. I think if you are into guys, eventually you will get over this in a few years.

[Fudgie]

It's also possible that you may need to find a guy who will give you a POSITIVE physical experience. That means that he'll take his time with you and won't force you into anything that you don't want to do.