adequate Posted June 19, 2010 Share Posted June 19, 2010 I can't believe I am here posting about the same thing again. It has been a while since I have talked about this but things are getting worse. I will be 47 in few months and I have not had sex for over 5 years. As a lot of you know I was left by my ex husband 4.5 years ago and I have not been with anyone ever since him. This would not be so bad if I did not have the great desire for sex but for God's sake it is getting worse and it is ripping through my body something fierce. This is starting to take an emotional toll on me. I have been through too much and am too exhausted to want to date. When I was in my 20's I dated tons of men through dating services and then had 1 serious relationship and then met my husband and was with him for 8 years and married for 6 years. So I don't want to date a ton of men just to find a companion and I just can't go out and get laid with some random man. I know the only two choices are to go out and get laid or to try to find a companion and I am not willing to do either one of these. I don't want to masterbate anymore I am sick of doing it and I really need a man to take care of me. but I am hoping the desire will go away soon. There are a few attractive men at work and they are married but everytime they walk by me I get all hot and bothered and then I start to get extremely frustrated. I don't want to feel this anymore. I am just too old for all this. Thank you all for listening. I hate this so much. Link to comment
ToF Posted June 19, 2010 Share Posted June 19, 2010 Well, if you're not willing to do anything to fix the problem, then the only person to blame is yourself, right? I don't mean to come off as insensitive, but you clearly stated your options, then in the same breath said you were willing to consider neither of them. So, what would you like to hear from us? Link to comment
adequate Posted June 19, 2010 Author Share Posted June 19, 2010 Well, if you're not willing to do anything to fix the problem, then the only person to blame is yourself, right? I don't mean to come off as insensitive, but you clearly stated your options, then in the same breath said you were willing to consider neither of them. So, what would you like to hear from us? Yes I 100% agree with what you saying. It is such a struggle and I have to choose what route I will take but that is what the problem is. I do blame myself everyday for this. Link to comment
ToF Posted June 19, 2010 Share Posted June 19, 2010 Yes I 100% agree with what you saying. It is such a struggle and I have to choose what route I will take but that is what the problem is. I do blame myself everyday for this. I'm sorry By "blame", I don't mean that you should carry negative feelings about yourself. I just mean that the responsibility is yours when it comes to changing the situation you are in. Like you said, it's a choice. Either you choose HOW to satisfy your frustrations, or choose NOT to. Link to comment
adequate Posted June 19, 2010 Author Share Posted June 19, 2010 I'm sorry By "blame", I don't mean that you should carry negative feelings about yourself. I just mean that the responsibility is yours when it comes to changing the situation you are in. Like you said, it's a choice. Either you choose HOW to satisfy your frustrations, or choose NOT to. Yes I know. I guess I don't want to have to choose anything but my body won't leave me alone. Link to comment
ncnc Posted June 19, 2010 Share Posted June 19, 2010 Why don't you try a male escort?? seriously! You want sex, he will know exactly how to pleasure you in everyway, that will be his goal to hope you book him again Do you have a profile up on E Harmony (a relationship site)? Put yourself out there! it'll happen for you. Link to comment
Shallow Posted June 19, 2010 Share Posted June 19, 2010 It is such a struggle and I have to choose what route I will take but that is what the problem is. There is middle ground. There are sites in the States (and I'm sure abroad if that's where you are) you can check out like link removed, link removed, or even a classifieds site like CraigsList. This would allow you to be somewhat choosy while not having to do the whole "dating" thing. It's not something I'd do or even recommend (and I'm in a similar position as you . . . it's been way more than 5 years, but I don't really have the ardor like you do) but the option exists. Link to comment
pl3asehelp Posted June 19, 2010 Share Posted June 19, 2010 Think twice befor you hire an escort or have some thing with someone on adultfriendfrinder. This could seriously affect your future dating options. Make sure you're willing to take that risk. Link to comment
illusionglimps Posted June 19, 2010 Share Posted June 19, 2010 May I suggest a vibrator? Don't take my offer as insulting, but it seems this is the only way to avoid the fuss of dating or just sleeping with some random dude. It leaves no remorse, and there's no man attached to it to hurt you. I personally believe it's the best option, nothing to worry about besides yourself. Perfect solution ! Cheers! Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted June 19, 2010 Share Posted June 19, 2010 Maybe it is time to date again. It doesn't necessarily have to be exhausting. Link to comment
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