Captain Clutch Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 This is getting ridiculous. I haven't been very successful with girls, and ultimately, that falls on me. However, I also feel that I am unlucky in this department, as a lot of unfortunate situations pop up that prevent me from developing further. 1.) Freak occurrences. This is probably the most frustrating part of the whole thing. Several times recently, things look good until some fluke event happens and good situations vanish. Earlier this week, I met a cool girl, there was possibly some potential, and I was looking forward to possibly running into her again. That time was supposed to be at a party our mutual friend was throwing yesterday. Lo and behold, she got sick earlier in the day and couldn't go. Considering we graduate in less than a week, things look bleak. This is not the only time an event like this has happened. A couple months ago, I was to meet a girl through a mutual friend. He needed emergency surgery that day, and nothing ever happened. Another time, I was about to call a girl to set up date plans when the power went out (including the nearby cell phone tower). At a party, a girl was all over me, I step out for literally 30 seconds, and she's hooking up with another guy when I get back. There are other examples as well, but this sort of thing happens more often than it should. 2.) They like me...but not really. Numerous times over the past couple of months, I meet a girl, make her laugh, seem to connect and she is open to hanging out at some point. These girls who say they would like to hang out I have seen more than once or twice as well. Lately, when I keep my word and follow up, the girl disappears. Now I understand people flake or just try to be nice, but this sequence happens every single time! We will be in the middle of texting or talking, but once I suggest hanging out, she either stops responding or has to go. In fact, this exact scenario has played out three times in the past week. How am I supposed to ever progress if this always happens? 3.) My friends don't have to go through this. Most of my buddies have gf's and their relationships are going smoothly. I have experienced flaking and "games" girls like to play. With my friends though, their gf's don't do any of this. There's no flaking, no "games," and everything is dandy. This leads me to believe that girls who do "tests" are borderline interested in a guy or they are just amusing themselves. Even at parties, my friends are at the right place at the right time and get a hook-up while I'm always in the wrong spot. It seems almost too easy for my friends and impossible for me. They don't have much better "game" than me either, if they do at all. As you can tell, I'm more frustrated than anything else, but this is getting crazy. Obviously, it's on me, but I feel I am also extremely unlucky when it comes to girls and dating. My friends, who are not afraid to bluntly state the truth, say I am "cursed" and that I should make a show about this because the situations I end up in are almost unreal. I am doing very well and am confident in all other areas of my life - school, work, physical shape, etc., - but can't succeed here. It is very hard to remain confident when it comes to girls and dating when "something" always happens to destroy and chance I have with a girl. Aside from the usual, "be yourself," "keep your head up high" comments, is there anything you could advise? Is there some sort of "shock treatment" that I can implement in my game to make a breakthrough with girls? Link to comment
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