elizabeth73 Posted May 2, 2010 Share Posted May 2, 2010 I am a Dream Girl. I have been told this by every guy in a relationship. In regards to me wanting more then anything for the honeymoon stage to go on forever. I will never understand why am sees this as being a dream, an unrealistic fantasy or i get the your expectations are to high. Why is this? Is it so wrong to want a my man to keep the chemistry going as I do. A man who melts when he is touched my me, or is completely head over heals for me. I am always this way, i make sure that i do something everyday to make sure that my man is loved. ie, A lovely text, saying all the things i appreciate about him. A hug and a kiss when he gets home from work. kissing on him while sitting on the couch. Sitting beside while i watch him play on the x-box. Being spontaneous when it comes to making love. Buying new sexy, cute outfits. Rubbing his shoulders/feet/hands/back when they are soar. The more i do this the more he seems to back away. i am "overcompensating or really needy", if i ask for this back. I melt everytime i see him and fall in love every time he touches my shoulder, or hugs me, or kisses me. Why can't he feel the same way about me. I don't understand. He used to be like this all the time, but over time it is dwindling. It annoys him now that I try to touch him or kiss him, while watching a movie. As he says, "he can't watch a movie while i am around." If i make a move or talk him while he's playing modern warfare, I am ignored, he now gets this annoyed look on his like i am a burden. ( geez... didn't know saving the world on modern warfare was so incredibly important.) Instead of loving kiss when he leaves for work or comes home, i now get a quick peck. He says' "that its because he is more comfortable with the relationship now, so he doesn't feels he has to constantly be affectionate. I am not asking for constant affection, just with the same powerful felling there was before, like he did in the beginning. I feel like i have been duped, why would one lie about how they are and the way they are........when in reality they are not like that at all. i feel like i have had the wool pulled over my eyes. He say I should appreciate the things he does for me ( like buying me a fireplace, or flowers, o buying that car for us ( that was apparently just for me).Id rather have the affection. I cant hold a fireplace, hug a car or be caressed by flowers) I don't get me wrong i love these I mean don't get me wrong i love these things and appreciate them, but they are only things. He says, "now that we have had this fight (because talking about my feeling are a fight???), he feels he has to be more affectionate, because its all about Elizatbeth and if he doesn't do it we will have to have yet another discussion about it. so now the affection is fake, it is only being done to shut me up, rather then because he wants to. Am i really a dream girl, is asking for the affection i received in the beginning really asking too much from him? Is it really a fantasy to want the chemistry to last forever? Are my expectations to high? Confused and feeling slightly shafted. Link to comment
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