My bf uses hard core porn as a method to get 'off'...A LOT!

[uksgirl]

I'm new to this site but have been reading some postings that are similiar to my situation. My bf of a year lives far away from me. We do see each other quite frequently...once a week or every two weeks. We have a wicked sex life...but when we aren't together he uses his computer to watch porn...and I mean hard core, raunchy porn....and he does it a lot. And he doesn't just watch...he whacks off to it. (And he pays pretty big bucks to become a member to some very wicked sites) Probably every day or at least every two days. This makes me feel really uncomfortable...but I'm not sure why. I just really don't like it. He has a very high sex drive and when we are together he doesn't look at the porn...its when we are apart. I don't know why I don't like it but I just don't. Am I insecure? I guess I am. How weird is it to be jealous of a computer? I am thinking of our future and wondering how this porn addiction/obsession will affect our lives? I don't want to say to him don't do it? But I would hope if he knew how it made me feel he would want to stop it or at least try to make me understand why he does it...sooo much. Please help...its driving me nuts.

[Sebulous]

Its just a guy thing. Guys just love naked women. I don't go as far as to pay for mine, but I still watch it. I don't really have a constant set amount of times I watch it. Been a week and 1/2 for me. Just don't feel like it which is kinda weird. But I do hit times where I watch porn ALOT, I mean id go through 3 sittings a day.

 

If he is able to stop himself to be with you and you both have a happy sex life this is a good step. You should let him know it disturbs you. You can't make him stop whacking off. Almost every guy I know cranks one or two out everyday. But if he truly cared, he could stop / slow the porn.

 

Just an FYI, once I guy gets into porn, its really hard to whack off w/o it. So he might be in over his head (no pun intended)

 

Just let him know how much it disturbs you. Also, he would love it im sure if you reenacted some of the scenes with him. Only do it anything if your comfortable.

[r_u_happee]

I will be going out with my boyfriend for a year coming up here really soon, i know he doesn't pay for porn, but i know he looks at it, and i know it's to help him get off. Like a couple months into our relationship i knew he looked at porn, he told me he did, i guessi 'm not to jealous about it, i mean, he's never gonna meet any of these girls and he never looks at it while i'm around. I wouln't be to worried if ou can help it. It's a guy thing, i dont think us girls are ever gonna fully understand why they like it so much, but there isn't a whole lot you can do. I'd say if it bothers you that much, talk to him. Tell him. I know sometimes i feel like i'm not good enough for him, but i know that isn't it at all. All you can do is talk to him.. good luck

[JonnyG]

Don't worry about it, theres not a guy i know who doesnt whack off to porn. Its nothing personal against u.

[Kaizer_Zero]

Hahahaha. Un/Fortunately I'm one of those guys who is committed to his girlfriend. However, whacking off to porn is normal for a guy, I'm just not normal. Don't mind it, has to do with male hormones.

[spyro]

I'm experienced guy

 

It's normal

 

It's only when you are alone

 

I have porn at home , t owatch with my girlfriend

but i never ask for it, she does , to get more in the mood

I don't have the needs.

I just watch some nudity on tv , when it comes on

 

I only want to see porn when i'm alone or in a hotel , away for work

so it's just a guy thing

 

I think he misses you

when you are together and everything is normal, OK

 

or should he go t osomeone els e ???

 

A man has to come every 2 days, believe me.

If there is no g/f or she does not like it then

tha nhe has to \wack off

 

sorry for my english

 

how do you find my signature?/?

 

I think it's very true!!!!!!