uksgirl

Hi guys...I joined this site to get help with this very topic...see "My bf uses hard core porn as a method to get 'off'...A LOT!" I find it to be a huge stressor on our relationship. I do adore him but can't deal with the feelings his obsessive usage of porn gives me. I feel worthless... embarrassed about it, like I am not pleasing him....anyway...not good the way it makes me feel. But what can be done about it????? I need advice...before this gets way out of hand. Very interested in hearing a guys point of view on this topic...preferably someone in a long term relationship that has had the same issues with their gf's. Is there a solution??? I don't want him to start lying to me about it..... And I don't want to lose him...but I just can't see taking this relationship very much farther while having these feelings...inadequacy sucks... Thanks....

I'm new to this site but have been reading some postings that are similiar to my situation. My bf of a year lives far away from me. We do see each other quite frequently...once a week or every two weeks. We have a wicked sex life...but when we aren't together he uses his computer to watch porn...and I mean hard core, raunchy porn....and he does it a lot. And he doesn't just watch...he whacks off to it. (And he pays pretty big bucks to become a member to some very wicked sites) Probably every day or at least every two days. This makes me feel really uncomfortable...but I'm not sure why. I just really don't like it. He has a very high sex drive and when we are together he doesn't look at the porn...its when we are apart. I don't know why I don't like it but I just don't. Am I insecure? I guess I am. How weird is it to be jealous of a computer? I am thinking of our future and wondering how this porn addiction/obsession will affect our lives? I don't want to say to him don't do it? But I would hope if he knew how it made me feel he would want to stop it or at least try to make me understand why he does it...sooo much. Please help...its driving me nuts.