first meeting in nearly 3 months...

[Parachute]

I bumped into my ex girlfriend for the first time in nearly 3 months last saturday.

 

We had a fairly messy break up and she started seeing someone else before we had officially split. It was a month before I found this out and during that month we had had some LC which I thought was going well until I found out about the new fella. I didnt find this out from her but as soon as I did find out I went strict NC. To be honest the LC was a bad idea as looking back I did probably come accross as a bit needy and weak. I can also now see that she was "feeding me scraps" during the LC as she already had the new guy.

 

We socialise with a lot of the same people and on saturday a group of them including her were in the pub. My friend was with them and trying to contact me when she said "oh he walked past earlier and wont come in here because he's seen I'm in here". My friend said she went on a bit of a mad rant about it ?? I did walk past but I didnt see her I just didnt fancy going in at that time.

 

Much later on that night I was in a bar with a group of friends when she walked in with her new fella. We were all quite drunk by this point. She saw me and came over and we said hi to each other then she went to give me hug. I gave her a hug but didnt give it much effort and then turned my back on her and didnt speak to her again. Ten minutes later I pulled a girl stood at the bar and gave her all my attention all under my ex's nose. She must of noticed and I hope she did.

 

I think her new fella is a rebound and I just wonder what all that might have done to my chances of getting her back (if I still actually want her back).

 

Why would she have a rant about me avoiding her when she's supposed to be so happy with the rebound guy?

 

What was the hug for? She looked more pleased to see me than I was her until I gave her the cold shoulder.

[Parachute]

Looks like I've confused everybody as much as myself with that post.

 

Hmmmm, I think I will just have to let it be.

 

I do feel as though I have a gained a bit of my power (for want of a better word) back by being far from friendly and it felt good to give her a bit of her own medicine.

[minou]

Not sure what you're asking exactly. you're not sure you even want her back. Sounds like you handled the situation just fine. Who knows what's going on in her head? Hard to tell.