Possible to be friends?

[ATLstudent]

So i have been talking to this girl, she claims we are friends. So we were hanging out for weeks, and then i developed feelings.

I made a move....told her i liked her, she said the same, then i left at that, as we were just gonna take it slow

But then once we switched gears I started to see things that i didn't like, red flags to me, so i feel out of it, i didnt want it anymore, my feelings dwindled and a week after the fact i told her....I wasnt interested.

She was upset, but we remained friends.

And we are still talking, but the more i hang out with her, she texts or at least calls everyday, i just start feeling affection and that starts building into feelings again. Then i start liking her again, but i dont want to go through what i did before.

 

So anyone ever been here, what do i do. She also was hanging out with another guy recently i just felt hurt and jealous, i dont think i can just be her friend...Its feels like when we get close i develop feelings.

[wayoverit]

If jealousy is what caused you to back off, then it is your personal issue. You need to be confident in yourself to know that she will never leave you for another guy, even if hanging out with guys is her thing. Don't expect to change that part of her.

[DN]

What were the red flags?