g84 Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 I don't know if this is a weird question, but is there kind of an average amount of time that it can take for a woman to masturbate? Is it a bit unusual if it happens fairly quickly? Maybe if some tension has built up, and it needs to be released, can it happen pretty quickly? I had always wanted to ask, but i'm not used to discussing masturbation in general, and very few people that i know bring it up lol, so i guess i've felt a bit shy about it. I thought it would good to ask here. thanku! Link to comment
Lecturer Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 The quantity of time and effort for a woman to reach orgasm through masturbation will vary widely accross the population. I believe the average is 5-10 minutes for masturbation (longer for sex), but it can be as little as a matter of seconds, and as much as .. well.. infinite time - as some can't achieve orgasm. Link to comment
dragon lady Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 I have no idea what average is. I think it varies a lot. For me it completely depends on whether I'm taking any medication at the time. BC pills and antidepressants make it almost possible for me to orgasm and if I do it's very poor quality. When I'm not taking anything, I can have one within one or two minutes. Link to comment
-Sanguine- Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 depends whats on my mind but usually a couple minutes don't own toys, so I'm on my own.. Link to comment
metrogirl Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 Ever see the movie Gone in 60 seconds That's what my best friend calls me when I mention the masterbation thing. I have little ones in the house and don't always have a lot of time to myself so usually I have to be super quick about it. Link to comment
Speranza Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 Totally varies for me. And so does the need to do it. Sometimes it's a couple of times a day, sometimes it's a couple of times a month. If I'm feeling really horny I guess about a minute or two, usually about ten. But sometimes I can't come at all. Still enjoy it though! Am I unusual in never using a sex toy? (I'm a pianist, very agile fingers ) Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 I don't masturbate often. Because when I do, it takes a long time to kick the first O off -- about 20-30 mins. I'm so envious of those who can get it done under a couple of minutes! (I wonder if manually vs. machine-induced is the reason for the difference; I'm doing it the old-fashioned way.) But then, once that gets kicked off, for some reason I can get one every 30 seconds to 1 minute....like I'm in the "zone" or something, haha....which can go on 2+ hours. I'm a freak. And that's why I don't do it too often. Time consuming and soreness. ^Edit, @ Speranza: yeah, I still have pianist fingers, and was the fastest typist in school, but after my marathons, my hand is fried!! But I don't think I'd like toys...I need the control of my own tempo... Link to comment
greywolf Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 ech it takes me about 20 minutes lately if I don't use porn. Apparently I don't have much of an imagination lately. Am I unusual in never using a sex toy? I never use toys either. I have this thing where I feel too proud to use one. It's kinda silly =/ Link to comment
dragon lady Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 TOV, that's crazy. I'm spent after one. I stopped using toys when I discovered that they make it harder for me to have one without. I prefer without now. I'm sure it will improve my chances of having one with guy too. That was always a rarity for me. Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 Lol, yeah, DL...especially because I do a lot with my hands (write, art), I can't afford that kind of exertion, but it's like potato chips to me..."can't just have one". It ends up being the whole bag. It's whacked, man. I'm leary about toys for the reason you say (besides the fact that I don't like the sensations, they feel too strong and unnatural)...but it sure would be good to get these easier and without all the elbow grease. I'd do it much oftener, I think, rather than this feast or famine deal. It's sheer nuts. Link to comment
Perfect Dark Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 I go for weeks without doing it, it's usually 2 weeks before Aunt Flo that I start to do it. It takes too long some times, but it's usually worth it lol. I guess you could say I binge masturbate haha. I can never get myself off with my hands either, annoying. Especially if you run out of batteries. Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 I guess you could say I binge masturbate haha. Good way of putting what I do, too. Link to comment
dragon lady Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 I can say for certain that I am rather jealous I bet that's a lot of fun, even if it's only every so often. Link to comment
Perfect Dark Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 Good way of putting what I do, too. And you feel so much better for doing it when you haven't done it for a while too! Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 I can say for certain that I am rather jealous I bet that's a lot of fun, even if it's only every so often. Yeah, it's fun, I admit. While it's happening...afterwards, though, there's a price to pay that's worse than writer's cramp. So if I have a deadline, I won't do it, haha. And also, the first one is really the most powerful and best...they get rather less dramatic over the time period. More like mini aftershocks, but they still feel awesome. And you feel so much better for doing it when you haven't done it for a while too! True! The saving it up really makes for anticipation. It's a much better release. Then I set the mood...put on "something more comfortable", put my red mood light on, arrange my pillows and such...and it's go time for some real romance. Bahaha. Link to comment
greywolf Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 I do it about twice a day. I just wish it wouldn't take so long lately. sheesh. =/ Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 If you don't use lube, grey, try it. It'll make it go faster. Link to comment
Perfect Dark Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 Yeah, it's fun, I admit. While it's happening...afterwards, though, there's a price to pay that's worse than writer's cramp. So if I have a deadline, I won't do it, haha. And also, the first one is really the most powerful and best...they get rather less dramatic over the time period. More like mini aftershocks, but they still feel awesome. True! The saving it up really makes for anticipation. It's a much better release. Then I set the mood...put on "something more comfortable", put my red mood light on, arrange my pillows and such...and it's go time for some real romance. Bahaha. What part of the day do you find it's best to do it? I like doing it in the morning before getting up because it totally puts me in a good mood for the day ahead lol! Link to comment
greywolf Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 If you don't use lube, grey, try it. It'll make it go faster. Really? Unless I'm fingering myself, I actually hate it when I get wet. I spend a lot of time wiping it off. Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 What part of the day do you find it's best to do it? I like doing it in the morning before getting up because it totally puts me in a good mood for the day ahead lol! Oh, I'm a night person, myself. For some reason, I'm just too groggy in the morning to enjoy it (it's the same for sex with a guy, too, sadly!), and also I'm not feeling very leisurely and mellow 'cause I'm anticipating the day. At night, I'm really chill, but also wired, so that's when the itch gets strongest. Really? Unless I'm fingering myself, I actually hate it when I get wet. I spend a lot of time wiping it off. Well all I use is fingers...so are you using a vibrator? As I said earlier in the thread, I shun them...but a little slide on the sweet spot really gives it more sensation with less effort. This is one case where traction slows you down big time, I've found. Not a whole lot different from a guy, I think. Link to comment
greywolf Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 Well all I use is fingers...so are you using a vibrator? As I said earlier in the thread, I shun them...but a little slide on the sweet spot really gives it more sensation with less effort. This is one case where traction slows you down big time, I've found. Not a whole lot different from a guy, I think. When I said fingering I meant like on the inside. ughh I feel embarrassed talking about this. hahaha I don't use vibrators. I have this thing where I'll lose my self-esteem if I have to rely on them to get off. It's stupid. I know that. I don't care. lol The thing is when I do it, I don't really slide it. I do it more like a massage. I think I just developed that habit because I used to orgasm faster than my ability to lube up. So when it gets really lubed up I feel like I can't get a good grip. lol Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 When I said fingering I meant like on the inside. ughh I feel embarrassed talking about this. hahaha I don't use vibrators. I have this thing where I'll lose my self-esteem if I have to rely on them to get off. It's stupid. I know that. I don't care. lol The thing is when I do it, I don't really slide it. I do it more like a massage. I think I just developed that habit because I used to orgasm faster than my ability to lube up. So when it gets really lubed up I feel like I can't get a good grip. lol Yeah, I know what you meant by fingering, lol...which I don't do very much, since it doesn't do much for me. I'm into the external bits a whole lot more. Hahaha, I know, pretty embarrassing fare, but oh well...I don't see any dudes on this thread, lol. They could probably care less what we do for ourselves in private, lol. Right, sorry, you did say you don't use vibrators. What I do is like a massage, too, but it's on the outside, not inside. And there's just the right amount of lubrication that seems to make it "glide" better, and roll...kind of like when you grease a pan (good), as opposed to poring oil in it (not good). Haha...if that makes sense. Give it a shot. Link to comment
greywolf Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 Yeah, I know what you meant by fingering, lol...which I don't do very much, since it doesn't do much for me. I'm into the external bits a whole lot more. Hahaha, I know, pretty embarrassing fare, but oh well...I don't see any dudes on this thread, lol. They could probably care less what we do for ourselves in private, lol. Right, sorry, you did say you don't use vibrators. What I do is like a massage, too, but it's on the outside, not inside. And there's just the right amount of lubrication that seems to make it "glide" better, and roll...kind of like when you grease a pan (good), as opposed to poring oil in it (not good). Haha...if that makes sense. Give it a shot. I guess I will. I just get annoyed that it takes so long lately. If I use porn I only need 2 minutes. Without it takes me forever, but that wasn't always the case. And if it's taking me even longer than usual, I can stick a finger in the back (sorry if that's tmi. I know some people think that's gross and it'll set me off right away, but I don't like depending on that either. Link to comment
g84 Posted August 31, 2009 Author Share Posted August 31, 2009 thanks for your replies everyone, i feel a bit reassured lol For me it also happens every few weeks usually, and it can last from one to five minutes. Also I've never tried using toys before. I did talk about it with one person recently, and they seemed a little surprised, so i guess this made me more curious. Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 I say, whatever works! Link to comment
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