gilfer Posted August 18, 2009 Share Posted August 18, 2009 Would it be a dealbreaker if your partner never initiated sex despite having a normal sex drive (however you define normal sex drive) in a relationship? Link to comment
waveseer Posted August 18, 2009 Share Posted August 18, 2009 It depends on how responsive he was when I initiated. Ultimately, if he wanted sex when I did and was enthusiastic I don't think I'd have any problem saying when. I would just hope he could keep up with me. Link to comment
Speranza Posted August 18, 2009 Share Posted August 18, 2009 Yes, it would for me. Provided that we had talked about it and I'd expressed my needs in a non-threatening way, possibly more than once. It's simply that although I am a very giving person, for me one 'proof' of someone's interest is if it occurs to them to 'want me' without being asked. If I always initiate, I eventually begin to feel that they aren't interested. (And I think that's often the case, though men can become lazy when they are comforatble in a relationship). I've pondered this long and hard but it's simply a need I have, and not an unreasonable one. At a very basic level, it's like someone never offering to do the dishes! lol Link to comment
Anonybrit Posted August 18, 2009 Share Posted August 18, 2009 My ex almost never initiated sex with me. In 2 years, with the exception of the first month or two together, I could count the number of times she initiated on one hand, literally. It got me down a lot. Link to comment
mr.mac Posted August 18, 2009 Share Posted August 18, 2009 Yes, it would for me. Provided that we had talked about it and I'd expressed my needs in a non-threatening way, possibly more than once. It's simply that although I am a very giving person, for me one 'proof' of someone's interest is if it occurs to them to 'want me' without being asked. If I always initiate, I eventually begin to feel that they aren't interested. (And I think that's often the case, though men can become lazy when they are comforatble in a relationship). I've pondered this long and hard but it's simply a need I have, and not an unreasonable one. At a very basic level, it's like someone never offering to do the dishes! lol I couldn't agree with this more! It's not that I need my girl to want sex I just want her to want to have sex with me. Link to comment
npsgnome Posted August 19, 2009 Share Posted August 19, 2009 yep, thats a deal breaker alright! it has to be a 2 way street! Link to comment
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