getting_on_ok Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 Its been almost two months since I have talked to my ex. She dumped when life was getting hard. My grandmother passed away, my aunt is dying. A guy close to me at work committed suicide. The problem was I should have dumped her a long time ago. She was staring at other men looking for attention. And even when I told her it hurt me she still did it. She would confine in other men and tell everyone about our problems. I was no saint, I would break up with her and get in her face. But then come right back to her. And we would continue this cycle. I just heard from a friend of a friend that she was asking if she should call and she misses me and loves me. Know I got my hopes up and she still hasn't called. Why do I miss her so much, why do I want to text her and say hello. When I know I'am going to get hurt. I am sorry but I really cant talk to anyone one of my family and friends because they are sick of me talking about it. Can some one just give me some kind words? Link to comment
Maya_A Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 You have a lot of very tough losses in your life right now. I'm really sorry & I wish you strength. How are you working through those emotionally? What is your outlet? Link to comment
starlight40 Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 From what youve said it didnt sound like a healthy relationship with all the pushing and pulling all the time, that becomes a game of control and ego trips. I think you know yourself that it wasnt right but because your pride has been hurt from the rejection you are searching for a way to get that back, that is what is leading you back to her. Sounds like the decision to split was warranted regardless of who did it. Ask yourself do you want to be in that kind of relationship...the on off one with games and arguements or do you want something more mature and mutually fullfilling...... you both deserve that. Link to comment
getting_on_ok Posted August 13, 2009 Author Share Posted August 13, 2009 I work out like crazy, I go to counseling, I love to dance so I try to do that every weekend. And the guys at my work have been great. Its just hard and I am on this site like crazy!! Link to comment
Wisconsin guy Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 Dude, My gf dumped me when I found out my dad was dying. She told me it was too much for her to deal with. She admitted she had alot on her plate and I was too much to deal with. That was in June. I feel for you. Women like ours are no good and we're better off. I'm still struggling to accept that even though I believe it Link to comment
starlight40 Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 Took me ages to accept that my ex was never going to be the guy i wanted him to be but acceptance is your friend, its will push you forward. Being accepting is strangely freeing Link to comment
BriarRose Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 If you heard that she still loves you, maybe you should contact her? I don't really know the whole story. BUT keep in mind that traumatic life events like what you are going through can cause us to miss them more - but it can be misleading - we are stressed and looking for comfort and familiarity... Link to comment
getting_on_ok Posted August 13, 2009 Author Share Posted August 13, 2009 I dont know if that is good right now. I think if she wanted to contact me then she would. Dont you think? Link to comment
starlight40 Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 I dont know if that is good right now. I think if she wanted to contact me then she would. Dont you think? Is it worth saving? Link to comment
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