Question for the guys

[murman2]

I think I have to disagree with this...If the guy already worked up the courage to go and approach her and she responded favorably, I think intimidation doesn't really play a significant role at that point.

 

BTW I don't have this problem either...lol

 

 

I am a guy. and I have this problem lol. I know many people who are also like this. so i disagree.

 

I have no problem working up courage to go talk to a girl.. but going up and talking to a girl and being myself is different. its hard for me to be myself in that situation and often times i get rejected because i come off as too awkward or weird.

[Cognitive_Canine]

It's funny. I will sometimes point out a really hot or attractive woman while with my b/f...and say something like "wow she's cute, don't you think??" And MANY times he will say he doesn't even think so...maybe as a way to downplay it..but either way sometimes

men don't find stereo typical "beautiful" women very attractive and sometimes actually go for more plain, average women. I don't think it means he's "intimidated"..I just think it means she's not HIS cup of tea.

 

The only women that my boyfriend and I agree are hot are selma hayek and that blonde girl in spiderman 3.

 

We both have the same taste in men pretty much though. The only man we disagree on is Matt Bellamy. But, I'm more in love with his voice than his looks.

[COtuner]

That's true.

 

Men often assume that women are kicking men off their heels. But, unless you are dressed ridiculously and in a club, you're not getting asked out that often.

 

Thanks for actually figuring that out. It's so hard to convince guys that good looking women ACTUALLY have problems with finding good dates.

 

Yes yes yes yes yes

[Wolf_22]

For me, it would be because of the mess my ex left behind when she left me. Right now (and I know this is wrong and I'm working on it), I hate all women because of her.

[shiminimo]

maybe they spend to much time looking in the mirror, maybe the guy is gay and thinks she looks prettier than him.

[Nixee]

That's true.

 

Men often assume that women are kicking men off their heels. But, unless you are dressed ridiculously and in a club, you're not getting asked out that often.

 

Thanks for actually figuring that out. It's so hard to convince guys that good looking women ACTUALLY have problems with finding good dates.

 

very true. I hate that confidence disconnect... "she's out of my league" or "he's too good for me" .... the assumption that someone is probably not fully available or won't want to be serious/has many other guys knocking down her door.

 

I don't know though... would a guy decide to not get serious with a girl just because he thought she was TOO good looking or "out of his league"? I thought that had more to do with fear of approaching a woman at all.

[DaBladeRoden]

All of the above plus hmm....

 

wants a sugar daddy, pregnant or young kids, does drugs, does porn, or works in other unfavorable industries, constantly talks about her ex, is a female dog, is a prude in bed, doesn't communicate, is secretive about her life, has been known to cheat, is dumb as a rock, and so on

[Cognitive_Canine]

very true. I hate that confidence disconnect... "she's out of my league" or "he's too good for me" .... the assumption that someone is probably not fully available or won't want to be serious/has many other guys knocking down her door.

 

I don't know though... would a guy decide to not get serious with a girl just because he thought she was TOO good looking or "out of his league"? I thought that had more to do with fear of approaching a woman at all.

 

I don't think it's lack of confidence on guy's part. It's that guys don't want to approach women based on looks. They only want to approach girls that they like mentally and physically. So, it makes sense that they aren't approaching random strange girls based on looks alone. It's going in blind, really.

 

I know I rarely like guys (actually, I can't think of a single case) unless I know them and have spent time with them.

[Nighter]

All of the above plus hmm....

 

wants a sugar daddy, pregnant or young kids, does drugs, does porn, or works in other unfavorable industries, constantly talks about her ex, is a female dog, is a prude in bed, doesn't communicate, is secretive about her life, has been known to cheat, is dumb as a rock, and so on

 

haha... that was kinda sad and funny, but oh so true

[maverick554]

There are many reasons, some might be: she doesn't seem to be girlfriend material, you fear potential infidelity or doubt her ability to be faithful to you, she has a history of self-destructive relationships, she has low self-esteem, there doesn't seem to be a "click," the list could go on and on. Although guys are often percieved as very shallow and only focused on appearance, REAL men look at a girl as a whole person, and focus on everything from personality to emotional health. I'm not trying to undermine the need for a mutual physical attraction, but when it comes down to it, physical beauty is skin deep and real beauty is on the inside. There are several girls I found very attractive who I've been involved with that I persued nothing serious with because I didn't think anything serious would actually come out of it.

[Blue Spiral]

If they're hot, the only thing that would rule them out, in my book, is some sort of extreme personality problem. Now, minor personality problems, I can deal with--god knows I have those in spades, so it'd be hypocritical to reject a girl for them. (I realize that, because of this, I am not a "REAL" man, but that's okay, I can't drive a stick or fix anything, either.)