enchanted771 Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Right now I am in a weird relationship. I see him once every 3-weeks. We get along great, hang out, have chemistry, etc. I am willing to see where it goes since its a very new relationship (less than 2-months) My question is: if I decide that its not going anywhere, what do I say without being a b***h??? if it doesnt happen, I will confront him, but he might just need to realize he will lose me if he doesnt so I have to word it right. Any ideas??? Link to comment
sbux_addict Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Just say you don't see it going anywhere. Either way, he's going to get hurt, so the part on not sounding like a * * * * * , can't help it. but you have to let him know...it's just fair to him...and you too. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 be honest. Say that you don't see the relationship going anywhere and don't want to continue it. Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Why do you see him only once every 3 weeks? Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted March 20, 2009 Author Share Posted March 20, 2009 I know what I have to do...and it hurts like hell. Its obvious he isnt ready for a relationship. Right now, I am not either. But is it worth it, to get together until I am and see if it goes anywhere? or will it just make matters worse? Link to comment
MsMargarita Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 yes it will make it worth i think. if you had property you would want to meet more often! and wouldnt have questions... maybe you re profoundly lonely? x Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted March 20, 2009 Author Share Posted March 20, 2009 I thought so. what do you mean by property? Link to comment
purpleduckie Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 wait... if it's only been 2 months.. and you only see him once every 3 weeks.. you've only seen him.............. 3 times?? Link to comment
JadedStar Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Right now I am in a weird relationship. I see him once every 3-weeks. We get along great, hang out, have chemistry, etc. I am willing to see where it goes since its a very new relationship (less than 2-months) My question is: if I decide that its not going anywhere, what do I say without being a b***h??? if it doesnt happen, I will confront him, but he might just need to realize he will lose me if he doesnt so I have to word it right. Any ideas??? No matter how you say it if he is into you he will be upset. So don't worry so much about HOW to say it, just be honest and let your honesty guide you in the conversation. NOt sure i understand the latter part...what do you mean he might need to realize he will lose you if he doesn't? If he doesn't what? I did not get the feel in the beginning that you were fearing losing him or that you were giving some ultimatum...i figured you just don't feel it is going anywhere. So you feel he might think he will lose you if he doesn't do what? Link to comment
Tired Tiger Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 wait... if it's only been 2 months.. and you only see him once every 3 weeks.. you've only seen him.............. 3 times?? Yeah... I was thinking the same thing. Link to comment
ratfreak Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 If you see it going nowhere, better to tell him right away. He'll be hurt but if you tell him calmly that you don't think this is working for you, I'm sure it'll be ok. I'd rather hear something honest as soon as possible than be strung on for years [like i just have] to find out the guy "wasn't ready for a relationship" after 3 years together. Link to comment
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