Post breakup headspace

[Keyman]

So I broke up with my short term partner on the weekend. It was due to happen, I am glad that happened and I am in such a better place in my own happiness.

 

However, I want to know why I am still thinking about her and why I hope things will be patched back up again. Am I just feeling the effects of a sudden gap in my heart and going back to being single again? What should I do?

 

I know I went through this about a year ago with my previous one, but I wanted to hang on to her and was not ready to let go. I was only with this one for 3 months and for the last month have felt like it was going nowhere and that the break up would be a good thing. Now we are broken up and I don't want to go back, but why am I thinking/feeling like I do?

 

I wish I could just turn off my head and focus on everything else. But my head keeps slipping back to that. How do I stop it doing that?

[scorpio47]

That's normal for a relationship, especially if it was sexualized. No special tips or tricks here...just time...