katerinacs Posted February 22, 2004 Share Posted February 22, 2004 Ok... so there is this girl that you've been looking at and you might be attracted to... someone comes to you and tells you that "there is a girl infatuated with you and wants to get to know you, but doesn't know if you're in a relationship..." Suddenly, it happens that this girl you've been looking at comes to you out of nowhere and talks to you and, in fact, she makes reference to the guy who had told you before about "this girl"... then you figure it out! This is the girl! Question: Do you feel more shy (not making eye contact with her, being nervous, not saying much when being around her) because you know this might be the girl that likes you? Or Do you feel more comfortable and go for it? Link to comment
Happy_Go_Lucky_Heb Posted February 22, 2004 Share Posted February 22, 2004 I'd go for it even if no one talked 2 me and the girl didn't contact me either! But I'm a bit outgoing so I suppose I wouldn't help much. I think if you constantly contacted him etc etc, he'll become less shy. Happy Heb Link to comment
DanRockstar Posted February 22, 2004 Share Posted February 22, 2004 I'd hardly spoken with girls, but with the girl I'm seeing now I just got the strength to ask her out from somewhere, it just felt right... it took me like 10 minutes of saying "do it... do it..." in my head, and she usually turns me into a bumbling fool, but if you just take a deep breath and go for it then you get your answer, instead of wondering... All the best Dan Link to comment
msgsmsgs Posted February 22, 2004 Share Posted February 22, 2004 I was a shy guy and I'm still shy, lucky for me my current GF asked me to come to come to a cocktail party with her (as a friend, she had no intentions with me at that time). Then I got the chance to talk to her all night (I pretty much monopolized her the entire night), and we started going out, then eventually we became BF & GF (within 2 months)........ But guess what, I still can't strike up a conversation with a girl I didn't know! I'm still shy with other girls, just not my GF....... Just talk to her and be yourself, instinct will take over. Link to comment
hmcl281 Posted February 23, 2004 Share Posted February 23, 2004 i'm shy mainly to girls i'm attracted to. if i were caught off guard i might be nervous Link to comment
Tom_Bombadil Posted February 23, 2004 Share Posted February 23, 2004 Well, I've always had trouble initiating converstations with women I am attracted to. But if this were to happn to me, I'd probably be caught off guard and start blushing like crazy, but I think I would still go for it. Link to comment
katerinacs Posted February 24, 2004 Author Share Posted February 24, 2004 Well, I ask because I know this guy has been looking at me and he knows that I'm the girl that likes him back and I've already made the first move. I talked to him and he was EXTREMELY NERVOUS (no eye contact, etc), and when I say hi to him in the hall or something like that he does the same exact thing (no eye contact whatsoever). Still, he keeps looking at me and passes in front of where I am a lot (when really he doesn't have to). My question is: Is he waiting for me to make the next move again (talk to him, etc)? Or he is just plain not interested? This guy is thought to be a very nice guy and he comes accross as rude to me, and I KNOW he doesn't do it with everyone, so I'm just very curious why he acts like that with me and why can't he be normal? Is it because he's intimidated? Link to comment
hmcl281 Posted February 24, 2004 Share Posted February 24, 2004 does a shy person also have to be a nice person? i think he likes u and the shyness is preventing him from showing it. Link to comment
Tom_Bombadil Posted February 24, 2004 Share Posted February 24, 2004 Judging from the way he acts (passing in front of you when he doesn't need to), I'd say he has a crush on you. It sounds to me like he may be waiting for you to make a move. Some shy males will carry a crush on a girl for years and never do anything about it. You just have to be more direct with them. He actually sounds a bit like myself back in high school. The reason he may come off as rude to you is because he may be trying to hide his insecurities. They are usually the reason why people become shy in the first place. Don't give up just yet. Link to comment
katerinacs Posted February 25, 2004 Author Share Posted February 25, 2004 I will take your advice and see what happens. I'm just scared to make him uncomfortable. And no... shy guys are not necessarily nice, I think. My exboyfriend was really shy, which I thought was really cute and he is everything but nice. I know this guy is one of the "nice ones", because of what I know about him. If I would've known just a bit about my ex, I would've never even paid attention to him. Link to comment
monkeyman Posted February 27, 2004 Share Posted February 27, 2004 I'm generally pretty shy, but I think I'd go for it Link to comment
tablett Posted February 27, 2004 Share Posted February 27, 2004 Well, I am REAL shy, and just for some girl to look at me, makes me look down kind of. However, when, if they talk to me, I may appear uneasy, and at first my face turns red, but if I were you, just keep a conversation going. The longer one goes, the looser I get. Just don't go too too far, just take it slow with him. Link to comment
Silversun Posted February 27, 2004 Share Posted February 27, 2004 I'd probably go for it. If I know or find out that a girl likes me, I would go and ask her out more or less straight away. To turn the question on it's head, I'd say that girls letting the boys doing the 'asking out' bit makes it all the more exiciting for me personally anway. Girls like to be chased and to play hard to get? Correct me if I'm wrong. I think most girls hide their affections, especially if their in a group. Link to comment
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