Guys: what was he thinking?

[Caterina]

I talked to a male friend lately. FOr some reason, men give me a lottt more insight into male-female situations than women do. I had a friend for three years that I really liked. My male friend told me that this friend hung around three years for two reasons: either I was completely in the friendzone, or he was hoping for sex or a relationship.

 

I know it wasn't a relationship.

 

I know he wanted sex, but three years?

 

So what do you think? What was it?

[JadedStar]

Caterina some guys will do that. Not all of them. Your friend isn't sure what the guy remained friends with you for. There is a chance it was for sex, but you don't know that for certain.

 

We can't tell you what it was, tho, without knowing the guy or the situation.

[Caterina]

Well, he was a friend of mine that wanted sex from me eventually, but not a relationship. I told him I couldn't handle the friendship since he acted like a boyfriend, but wasn't. He complimented me and I just thought he liked me even though he said he didn't. It still hurts to think about.

 

It was easy for him to move on, I think. He stopped talking to me after I asked him to.

[Xetra Dax]

I think you acted too slow, you could have asked him more straightforward on what his intentions were. 3 years passed for something you've could have get an answer for within 3 days.

[Caterina]

I think you acted too slow, you could have asked him more straightforward on what his intentions were. 3 years passed for something you've could have get an answer for within 3 days.

 

I definetly agree with you.

 

I waited around hoping that he'd ask me out. I was delusional and looked at everything he did as a sign. God what a waste of three years. I'm still so sad about it.

[JadedStar]

Well now you know the truth and you can't bring back those three years, worrying and stressing over it is unproductive. Just look forward and take the lessons learned as artillery for your future and the time spent isn't really a waste after all.