Have I ruined everything?

[ilinara]

thanks

[ilinara]

thanks

[Beec]

In the first place you need to look at what you were doing before you said forget it. By contacting him a lot and almost demanding to see him, you might have come accross as needy or as if you were chasing him. Two keys to attraction emotionally: fulfill their emotional needs, make them feel great around you and that you are fun, nice, entertaining, etc.; be independent, aloof, don't be too needy (we each want our needs fulfilled, but we don't want it to cost us all of our independence). Also, people want what they cannot have. If he can have you whenever he wants to show up, then he will not work to hard to make sure he can show up when you are available. It's a game, but it is also who were are as humans.

 

I would try to act a bit more aloof and cut down on your contacting him. Wait a few days. If you don't hear from him, try to make it so you run into him and be glad to see him. If you don't hear from him in a week or two, contact him jsut to say hi, with no mention of seeing him. Let him try to find time for you.