workaholic Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 women! A quick history: I have almost avoided talking directly to a group of girls. Classrooms, nightclubs, dances, special social events. Usually there would be another guy there who would be the main interface, and then I'd feed off of what he was saying and talk to a maybe one girl and then we'd connect. I'm somewhat okay in one-on-one conversations with women. But a group? I will have the Shy Guy's Grimace. I won't say a whole lot. I have been better at laughing along, but I am not taking the lead in the conversation nor have I said funny, light-hearted things or jokes. Nor have I laughed after I've said something, which is a clear sign that you're an enjoyable, easy-going person. This happens because my mind is cluttered with what should I say, what not to say, what's funny, and so on.. Well today at work I chose to eat my lunch in the breakroom, and my buddies weren't there. These women didn't know me, so my guess is that I was rude (not intending to) because I didn't add to the conversation or ask them questions like (is this your first day here?). What can i do to prepare next time? If you were in my shoes, what steps would you take once you immediately join the group? Link to comment
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