strawberrywine Posted December 17, 2003 Share Posted December 17, 2003 First of all, I'm 17. There's a guy I've been talking to for a few months..and I have completely fallen for him. The thing is, he is very shy..he's never had a girlfriend. Sometimes I really think he feels the same, but he makes no effort to be with me. Is this because he's shy, or he doesn't care? Is there anyway to give him a push? thanks for any help. Link to comment
HollyBells Posted December 17, 2003 Share Posted December 17, 2003 how old is he? maybe he is gay, or maybe it has not occurred to him to date you. Be really friendly one time and as a joke ask him out, see how it goes from there... Link to comment
enadevoli Posted December 17, 2003 Share Posted December 17, 2003 i think he is just really shy & doesn't know if you like him so he doesn't want to risk getting rejected. i don't think you should jokingly ask him out cause if he can tell that you are joking, then he might say no because he would think it was all a joke, then that would just mess a lot of things up. i think that you should try to make the first move. maybe you should tell him that you like him. if he likes you, that will make it easier for him to let you know how he feels. or just drop clues every once in awhile. like one day tell him he's cute, or that you think he's an awesome guy. Link to comment
goofy Posted December 17, 2003 Share Posted December 17, 2003 HOWDY DOO... friends..... well.. yep... usually guys make the first contact.. "break the ice kindof thing".... I say.. give him for straight ..direct clues... .. I dunno.. That's my guess.. hahah Link to comment
dude123 Posted December 17, 2003 Share Posted December 17, 2003 I would say that you should try to flirt with him if you never did. Also try giving him some sorts of signs that let him know your interested. Link to comment
EmptySoul Posted December 19, 2003 Share Posted December 19, 2003 hello. if you think this guy is just shy, i'd try saying things to him over time that would make him more confident and comfortable around you. (compliments, show interest in him.) EmptySoul Link to comment
Karibo Posted January 9, 2004 Share Posted January 9, 2004 Don't be too forward in letting him know at first - slowly give him clues. I'm in the same boat as you and i let my crush know too soon that i liked him and it scared him off for a while. I think slow, steady but definite is the way to go. Link to comment
saren Posted January 13, 2004 Share Posted January 13, 2004 Scared him off for a while, but did he ever come back? Link to comment
Silversun Posted January 17, 2004 Share Posted January 17, 2004 I think you should ask him- straight out. then you can put to bed all the worrying you've been doing. Link to comment
saren Posted January 17, 2004 Share Posted January 17, 2004 What's the best way to bring up that topic though? Link to comment
Silversun Posted January 18, 2004 Share Posted January 18, 2004 What's the best way to bring up that topic though? Today I made a really big step, I had a nice chat with a girl I like. Now I feel extremely confident when speaking with so next week I'm gonna pop the question (wish me luck! ) I would say talk to the guy about anything, it could be topical or it could be about something you heard them talking about to someone else. For example I started talking about driving with the girl I liked. thereforeeee I think this is your best option. All the best. Link to comment
macdomat Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 Dang... if he's a shy fellow, this'll be easy. Throw an extra smile here and there. Talk to him. Brush your hand against his, if you can get close nough. If he's a quiet fellow, and shy like you say, ANY extra attention will push him in your direction. Link to comment
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