hislove16 Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 We broke up a year ago almost, yet he keeps kissing me, touching me. I asked him why and he said I put a spell on him. He kisses me everyday, holds my hand, just like when we were dating. He asked me to have with him, then decided he wouldn't push it, again, like he did when we were dating. I still love him, but it's tearing me apart to have him do this and not know if he still loves me. Does he love me or is he just wanting to have, as he said, "some fond memories to look back on in a few years?" He's moving in June, and I don't know if I'll see him again... Someone, please help me decipher what he's feeling towards me. Link to comment
Cheer_Babe Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 to me it seems like he dose still like you..if he is moving then i dont think you should get in to a realationship Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 Where is he moving to? how far from you? Maybe he's saying he wont pish it for your benefit. If he is acting this way maybe you should ask him if he does still love you and ask him what he hopes to gain? I doubt it will push him away with the way he is acting xx Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 why are you letting him kiss you and hold your hand??? if someone loves you, they are going to be with you. bottom line. i hate those guys who think it's okay to do that to girls. and i get very frusturated with all the girls who accept it .... likes its "this or nothing" kind of thing. Link to comment
hislove16 Posted April 22, 2008 Author Share Posted April 22, 2008 He said he's moving to Seattle, that's quite a ways away form me. He just keeps doing this, and doing things to make me happy. I really want to ask him if he still loves me, but I don't want to lose what we have right now. Link to comment
hislove16 Posted April 22, 2008 Author Share Posted April 22, 2008 I am still in love with him. Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 what do you have right now? I mean, either he wants the relationship with you or not? Are you certain he's moving or could he just be saying it? Link to comment
hislove16 Posted April 22, 2008 Author Share Posted April 22, 2008 I have what he gives to me. I want to have a relationship with him. Yes. He is moving. He's talked about it for over a month. He knows where he's staying and everything. Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 I can understand. To be honest I would take anything my ex had to offer me right now. What are hisreasons for moving? and would it be out of the question completely for you to move with him maybe when you have established a relationship again? Link to comment
hislove16 Posted April 22, 2008 Author Share Posted April 22, 2008 Exactly, and I love him so much I wouldn't care if he beat me as long as I was with him, as sad as that sounds.He's had issues with his parents for years, and he's sick of it, so he's getting as far away form them as he can. Yes it is completely out of the question for me to move in with him at the moment. If he was willing to work on the relationship sure I would, but not until he makes up his mind what he wants out of it, if he wants what we once had back at all. Link to comment
auburnslp Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 You have to do what your heart tells you is right-but listen to your mind as well. He is moving. He gets close to you when you are around one another. He seems to be asking for a temprary reconnection-but listen, I really hate to say thins because I don't know him, but is it possible he is just doing these things to have a fling? He knows he is leaving-could this just be a convenient thing for him? You need to figure this out, because if that is the case, it will end up hurting you worse, and he will get what he wants and that will be that. I really am sorry, again, I could be entirely wrong, but it sounds to me, frokm your brief description, that there is a possibility he is trying to play you...I hope I am wrong... Link to comment
auburnslp Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 and that statement about loving him even if he beat you is a little worrisome, to be honest. I know how it feels to be completely head over heels, but there are also lines that aren't crossed, or at least never should be. Link to comment
hislove16 Posted April 22, 2008 Author Share Posted April 22, 2008 that's what's worrying me. I don't want to be used like that. Sure I've thought "Hey, girl, get a clue" but if he is using me I don't want to see it. I've already been hurt by him so many times, I don't want to get hurt again, but something about him won't let me leave him alone. I still love him. Yes that would be a little worrisome, but at least I'm being honest. Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 Ok well in that case the distance wont be a problem then if u could move in. Right... so, june is a few months awy, do you think u could stick this out til then and see what happens? how often does he want to see you? Link to comment
theredrocket Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 he's using you for sex. which doesn't mean he does not care for you but that is what's going on Link to comment
hislove16 Posted April 22, 2008 Author Share Posted April 22, 2008 Well, I have to finish some things before I could do that. I have to do stuff, but it might be a possiblity after a while, but a while may be a few years. I can stick it out that long, my problem is if he wants me, will he stay with me through this time apart? Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 he's using you for sex. which doesn't mean he does not care for you but that is what's going on This could very well be the case but we dont know so we? I would like to hope not. Maybe he does just have genuine feelings for her. Link to comment
hislove16 Posted April 22, 2008 Author Share Posted April 22, 2008 theredrocket, I figured that might be what he wants, but when i asked him, I felt ashamed for thinking he would do something that low. and he said he'd never do that. Link to comment
auburnslp Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 yes you are, and that is an admirable thing. But,...you know what is going on. And the inability to stand up and not accept that kind of treatment is what is worrisome. Do you have any idea how far things progress-get worse-when you allow someone to treat you poorly? It's a free ride for them, and they ride it for as long as they can, taking every stop imaginable...not good. I am sure this is not what you want to hear. But I read your post and felt compelled to reply. You deserve far better. But until you realize your own worth, you will not get it. A healthy self-esteem will prevent this from happening, or from you allowing this to happen. That is my ultimate advice-to work on your self esteem. You really do deserve better. Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 You shouldn't just "settle" for what HE has to offer. Like I said above ... don't just take it just to take it ....... that's not right and you will never be happy. Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 Well, I have to finish some things before I could do that. I have to do stuff, but it might be a possiblity after a while, but a while may be a few years. I can stick it out that long, my problem is if he wants me, will he stay with me through this time apart? I have no idea, as long as you could visit each other often enough? I think you need to find out what his intentions are though one way or another and find out if he truly means what he is saying. If my ex was acting like this i would question what he wanted after a while at least. You dont want to hurt urself more if he turns around just before he leaves and tells you he just wants to stop everything. How genuine is he? Link to comment
hislove16 Posted April 22, 2008 Author Share Posted April 22, 2008 yes you are, and that is an admirable thing. But,...you know what is going on. And the inability to stand up and not accept that kind of treatment is what is worrisome. Do you have any idea how far things progress-get worse-when you allow someone to treat you poorly? It's a free ride for them, and they ride it for as long as they can, taking every stop imaginable...not good. I am sure this is not what you want to hear. But I read your post and felt compelled to reply. You deserve far better. But until you realize your own worth, you will not get it. A healthy self-esteem will prevent this from happening, or from you allowing this to happen. That is my ultimate advice-to work on your self esteem. You really do deserve better. I really have no selfesteem.... Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 I really have no selfesteem.... there is the answer. you have no self-esteem. thereforeeee you are settling for far less then you deserve. you are clinging on to anything he has to offer. belittling yourself. my dear, you are worth so much more. Link to comment
hislove16 Posted April 22, 2008 Author Share Posted April 22, 2008 I have no idea, as long as you could visit each other often enough? I think you need to find out what his intentions are though one way or another and find out if he truly means what he is saying. If my ex was acting like this i would question what he wanted after a while at least. You dont want to hurt urself more if he turns around just before he leaves and tells you he just wants to stop everything. How genuine is he? I plan on talking with him about what he wants. I need to know what he expects out of me. Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 I really have no selfesteem.... Well you really need to work on that, honestly. I know its really hard too Link to comment
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