Can I Trust Him? Is this how he'll act in the future?

[blueshirtgirl]

I've been dating this guy for 7 weeks now and he officially asked me to be his girlfriend a few days ago. Before we became official I asked him if he had hooked up with other girls while we'd been seeing each other to see if he wanted an exclusive relationship, and he said he hadn't. But yesterday I found out from a friend that he had hooked up with another girl so I asked him about it and it turned out it happened in the first week that we started seeing each other.

I wouldn't have minded much because we weren't serious in the beginning but what bothers me is that fact that he lied to me. Then he confessed that he had also hooked up with another girl 10 days before he asked me to be his girlfriend. He said he only wanted to be with me now and that it won't happen again because we're official and that the reason he didn't tell me before was because he was afraid of scaring me off when he wasn't sure where we were going. I said I would let it go this one time only, but since then I've been having trouble with knowing if I can trust him. Since he's in a fraternity he's around willing girls all the time...

Can I trust him? Can guys of his behavior really change for a girl?

[avman]

Well for a very lively debate on this subject please look here:

 

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I think we beat this issue to death on this thread and we still don't agree with each other

[enadevoli]

well, i wouldn't consider this cheating, only because they weren't gf & bf, they were just seeing each other. & people are free to see who ever they want, until they make that commitment to one person, & thats when he asked you to be his girlfriend. however, he did still lie to you about those other girls & thats whats wrong. who knows, he could be trusted, but just didn't want to tell you that because he thought it might upset you. except thats no excuse to lie. do you feel like he is lying to you about other things too? if this is causing you to have a trust issue, then you need to talk to him about this. trust is so important & without it, a relationship won't work out. maybe just ask him what his reasons for lying is & tell him how you are hurt by him lying to you.