Straight friend's curiosities...

[theoneandonly0708]

I'll make this short, but, a while ago my best friend, who I know is straight, started talking about getting head and we were having a conversation about it, and then he said something like straight guys get head from guys sometimes, and I never really thought anything of it until now. He is straight, I know that for a fact, but like I have read in some places that some guys will get head from a gay friend just to get off, but theres not intamcy or "love" with it obviously. He hasn't mentioned it since, but I've always wondered if he had ever thought about that, but purely just for him to get off or whatever... Any ideas?

[weatherbuff1]

I don't want to seem blunt when I say this, but it sounds like he said that to you when his hormones were raging. If his hormones were raging when he said that, than yes, maybe he is straight. But to want that from a guy he cannot be TOTALLY straight. You can never be sure somebody is straight. So that is besides the fact. But it is possible that he is gay or bisexual. Never assume anything about anyones sexuality.

 

However, head is head you are right about that. Almost all guys enjoy that. I was discussing this with a bisexual friend once (I am gay) and he told me that he has given head to straight guys.. and convinced them by saying.. it doesn't make them gay. It's just a mouth and tongue, and it just so happened that the mouth is related to a guy. Of course.. I am questioning if they were sober or not at the time.

 

But the point is.. straight guys accept it if they are without being blunt.. horny enough yes. Many guys like the idea because they feel like a guy knows how to make it feel good since he knows how it feels. But if they were truly 100% straight.. would they really think like that? It all goes back to the Kinsey scale if you believe in that.

[girl friend]

But if they were truly 100% straight.. would they really think like that?

 

They could well do.

 

I think he could be right about being straight.

 

There was a study done by Adams et al 1987 where they took two groups of men, a gay group and a homophobic group of men (who were all straight just to clarify) and showed them gay porn, whilst measuring arousal (i'll leave just how they did that up to your imaginations),. They found that the straight homophobic men actually showed more arousal than the gay men at the gay porn. Adams concluded that homophobia was a defence mechansim (called reaction formation) and that the homphobic men were actually probably closet homosexuals.

 

Later on however it was argued that this conclusion was incorrect. Arousal can transfer from domains. Perhaps the gay porn had made the homophobic men angry because it went against their beliefs, and anger came through as arousal. More likely however was the explanation that when we close off something in our minds as being ''not our thing'', in a way we forbid it unconsciously to ourselves. Never think about it, never do it, never feel the need to do it. In this w3ay, it feels almost like rebellion to do it. So when these men were presented with gay porn the taboo, the forbiddenness, the difference, the rebellion, etc was what enhightened arousal.

 

 

 

I think the point here is that something that is not our thing can be arousing sometimes just because it is different. Rather than for what it is.

 

 

On the other hand, if you believe in a spectrum of sexuality, he could be 1% gay...