help!!!

[KaylaSeymour216]

ok well i'm bi and i like this girl in my class but i don't think she is bi or gay. I asked around and they said that she would never be bi or gay. But she is always looking at me and when i walk by she turns and looks at me so i don't know if she is looking at my butt or what. We really ain't friends so i can't just go up and ask her so what should i do?

[phatpat]

She might be interested in being bi-sexual. Or she may be looking at you funny because her friends told her what you were asking about her. I have a couple bi friends that are girls. My ex gf was bi, so it's tough to tell for sure. Just try to become friends with her first and hang out and see what evolves from there.

 

Pat

[pdxoxo]

she could be interested in you or she might be wanting to be your friend or she could be checking you out to see how attractive you are and thinking about giving you a chance

[pdxoxo]

okay im a bi girl theres this one girl i have a really bad crush on.I dont know if she likes me cant really tell.We make eye contact alot everytime i look away she looks at me and everytime i get right by her she just stares at the ground and looks like shes thinking of something she looks nervous just like how i am when we look at eachother.When we talk to each other she stares at me for a couple of minutes. And everytime we touch(you know at school we have to do alot of partner stuff like holding hands) she kinda just acts weired not looking at me but talking to me at the same time.{"once we were in art class i am like the artist from the whole school and well everyone was looking at what i was doing and when everybody finally looked away and started doing other things she came up to me and just stared at me for a long period of time". i started staring at her blue eyes and said "what" and she said that she was just looking at what i was doing but she was just starring at me.And there was this other time we were in music class she was sitting in the back row and i was sitting in the front and next to me was an empty seat dont know why but she went and sat right next to me and i noticed that the chair was closer to me than it was we touched our arms on the side and kept touching we were like that the whole entire period.I just dont know if she likes me or not.Sometimes i think she does cause shes always staring at me in a passionate way but sometimes i think she doesnt because she is one of the most popular girls in school,shes a cheerleader,hot blonde with a nice body and theres no way a girl like that can actually fall in love with me.Im not ugly im a brunette with brown eyes,nice body and well almost every guy is interested in me at school im friendly and funny i have lots of friends most of them are bi!All i really want to know is if she likes me or not! please can somebody help me?

[Eveylyn]

when your in high school its harder. kids are cruel! if you go up and ask her if she likes you and she disses you, your screwed the rest of your high school life.

 

Honestly, wait it out.

[Lucy__lou]

So if I've understood this right, you're both attractive young women in the same classes, but you're out as bisexual and she's presenting herself for the most part as straight. And maybe she is, but she seems drawn to you in some way or another.

 

So really, if she's interested in you, it's up to her to let it be known that she's into you, in a sexual way. You've done the brave thing of being out, which makes it easier for her to figure you out and know if she might have a chance or not, so now it's up to her to do some of the work and go after you. Or if not that, then letting the world know she's bi (if indeed she is), so that you can safely proceed to pursue her.

 

As for what you can do, I suggest you play it cool. In my opinion it's not enough for her to be sitting close to you, or staring at you. That's too passive. She's waiting for you to do something, but she hasn't even got the guts to out herself (if it so happens that she is bi). That's not fair on you. Expecting you to make yourself vulnerable by approaching her first, when she has her safe straight persona to retreat to at any time. If she wants you, she's got to out herself first.

 

As for now, I'd just ignore her. (unless of course you're really hardcore and invincible and willing to chase after her and risk rejection from a straight girl).