lost in the clouds

thanks for helping. i am no longer confused but it will be difficult to stop liking her so much because she is everything i ever wanted in a girl. it just gets really frustrating if u know what i mean. Anyway i will take your advice and see how it goes.

recently there has been a new crew member at my workplace and within the first week we have got to know each other well and she has been flirting with me quite a lot. It is just that the more she flirts with me the more i start to really like her. now i have just recently found out that she has a long term boyfriend that lives 45 miles away from her because she has recently moved here but she see's him weekly. the confusing thing is she tells all my work mates that she fancies me and she will always watch me as i leave work but when i told her that i liked her she told me that she would go out with me if she wasn't serious with her bf and that she would rather be friends but she doesn't act like a friend but more like a person who really likes because of her flirting. I just really like her so much and am always feeling lonely without her now and i get really happy when she flirts with me every day we are at work and i wonder where we are going and wether we will actually start a relationship or not. i know if we don't then i will be really gutted and won't know what to do. please help cus as you can probably see i am confused about why she flirts with me and tells my colleague's she fancies me and will go cheat on her bf if she was in the right mood but always tells me she just wants to be good friends when i tell her how much i like her. i can't just forget about her cus she means too much too me now but wether this has happened to anyone else and what the outcome might be.

i was also wondering wether anybody knew how i could boost my confidence of myself and talking to others because i have tried as much as i could and nothing seems to work for me. I hate having low confidence and i try with all my might to get out of it but now i am starting to need help with it.

thanks for the advice from you all. But i have another problem now. Me and my friends went to a club where i met a very attractive girl and we danced. It took every bit of confidence i had to dance with her but i did. We seemed to be getting on pretty well until i walked her home and on the way i put my arms around her and she told me no. I didn't know what to do then and worried that i had made the wrong move. When i left her she asked for a hug and that was the last time i saw her. I have her number but i was wondering wether making that move on her on the way back to hers was a good idea and wether i will ever see her again. i then started to get quite low and started blaming it on my acne problem again. Can you give me any advice on wether i might have a chance with her even though it seemed she didn't like me as much as i liked her.

I have never had a girlfriend in my life and everyday that passes by and i see any young couples kissing i get totally jealous. i am even getting to the point that i am getting jealous of my best mate and his girlfriend and don't want to be around them. but firstly i am 18 and i have a normal build of body but the one think that i have hated about myself is that i used to have bad acne but i don't have it too bad now. i used to go through every day and look in the mirror and get totally depressed when the spots are still there in the morning and then realise that my chances of finding love is pretty slim. i recently worked in a bar and have chatted with a really cute girl that i really liked but only to find out she had a boyfriend but i can't get her out iof my head. i need help with myself because the more i see and think of myself as being ugly due to my spots i loose my self confidence to a point that i get nervous to talk on the phone. i seem to be lacking confidence to talk to any girl which i had to build up a heck of confidence to talk to the girl i liked that works with me in the bar. please help me cus i have read through most of the posts and feel that you have been a great help to others.