DoubleShot

Wow, very similar to what I just went through these last few weeks. When I was reading it, I thought I wrote it. lol. But anyways, like brtlangst said, waiting is pretty much all you can do right now. Don't bug her about her new boyfriend and say things that may possibly make her mad. Even if you are jealous about it, don't pester her about it. In my situation, she ended up breaking up with him because of her feelings for me, so don't give up all hope. It sounds like she is interested in you quite a bit, and if your friends are telling you that this guy has nothing on you, then she will probably start to realize that you would be better and drop him. Give it a bit of time and keep in contact with her. It will only make things worse if you suddenly cut off all contact with her. Keep things going as friends and then when she does break up with the other guy, make your move (but not too soon.) Good luck man.

Thank you just_smile for your reply. I'll try to answer your questions. Yes, we have talked about this quite a bit. In fact, today she contacted me through IM and we talked about it. It got worse and more confusing. She said that she doesn't have any feelings for me anymore, but she still wants to sit down and sort things out. I don't get it. I do like her a lot and care for her very deeply, and I want to be with her. I told her how much I cared about her and all that good stuff, but she just kept saying "good for you". So I guess I should just move on and start the grieving proccess, but at the same time, she still wants me to call her tonight. Very confusing. I still have a feeling that there is hope for us, but at the rate it's going now, I'm not sure. Should I call her? It's almost 3:30 now, and I'm supposed to call her at 7:00. I would appreciate an answer before then. Sorry if the information is sketchy, I'm just spitting things out left and right. Once again, very confusing, and any advice would be very helpful.

Didn't know exactly which forum to post this under, but this one seems to work best. Alright, here's the deal. I met this girl a few months ago and everything seemed to be running smoothly. We talked about possibly having a relationship but the only things that were holding us back were that she didn't want a relationship at the time and the distance, (she lives about 3 hours away from me.) We both started getting attached to each other over the next few months and were seriously considering having a relationship. She would tell me that at that moment in time that I was right for her, which understandably made me happy. A little over a week ago her friend told me that she was dating this other guy, and she was hiding it from me. I confronted her about this and her reason for not telling me about it was because she "felt regret towards me" and was thinking about breaking up with him. She was/is really confused about the whole situation because she doesn't know who to keep. She could keep me and risk losing him, or she could keep him and risk losing me. I told her to do whatever makes her happy, and then she said that either way she wouldn't be happy. I'm pretty sure it would be easier for her to let me go than it would be to let him go, but I still feel that I would be better for her. We were both pretty upset about this. I got hurt, and she felt bad about it. I decided to give her some space to figure out what she was going to do. She told me that she doesn't want space, but just about everytime we talk to each other we get into an altercation about the whole deal. I'm not sure what to do here. I really feel that I should give her some space to sort everything out and to keep us from fighting, but at the same time I don't want her to drift away from me because I won't talk to her. So I guess the question would be: should I keep contact with her? Or should I just leave her alone? This is very confusing on my part. If you need more info or something, just ask. I just pointed the highlights out. Hopefully it will be enough. By the way I haven't talked to her for about 3 days, if that helps any.