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as a female, i can almost see why she did what she did... we like our comfort zones... we like having stability... i think when things hapened that day, she saw u as the ex, who had once offered her that stability. i think there also might have been a touch of ego boosting going on... u went over to her house to help her move-to her that may have translated to you saying "i want you still and am willing to do this for you" i think u should probably let her go and not contact her for a while, for ur sake... even if she still has feelings for you, it doesnt sound as if she has ne serious intentions on following up on them with rekindling the relationship... just take it easy for a while... maybe look at other girls, the same way she is looking at other guys.. u might not find ur soulmate by casually dating or meeting new people, but u will stop dwelling on whats gone by!

my boyfriend of 17 months, well now techincally ex boyfriend (as of 6 days ago), did the "i want to be friends" bit when he broke up with me... ordnarily i would admire and respect his attempts to make things easier, knowing that he was genuinely trying to make me feel better about the break up. he is the kind of guy who makes an effort to be there for others.. the problem lies in the fact that we broke up because i loved him more than he loved me... he was more important to me than i was to him... how do i go from loving him too much, to being friends? especially when i keep getting text messages like " i miss you" "I still have deep feelings for you" "im sorry ive done this to you, i hate myself for hurting you"... where do i go from here? im in the feeling pathetic, waiting for a message that says "ive made a huge mistake in breaking up with you" phase... and im not seeing a way out of it... i love him... i wish i could stop... and to make matters worse... everyone, even his family are saying things like "he is an idiot" "he is losing the best thing that has ever happened to him"... why cant he see it like that? what do i do? wait for him to come back? try and move on, even tho i love him?