tazmania1975

Hi everybody I have posted here before the last time was this week about my x girldfriend coming to pick up her mail on tuesday and that i put it in a bag for her outside my door so i did not have to see her. We were together for 9 years she broke up with me 6 weeks ago. We were separated 2 years ago for 8 months then we got back together. Well I have been doing no contact but the past couple of days 3 to be exact i have been crying more than ever and thinking so much about her I just brake out and cry specially today i just can't control it i'm scared it might be depression I never had that before. Why is it that i can't control my emotions well i have not call her or anything. Can you please give me some advise? also I feel really sad because all of the friends i had i had to stop talking to them because they were her friends first and I think it was best for me to stop talking to everybody also I feel i can't talk to my family because they are tired of hearing it and they just say things like you crying for her after she hurt you? So i totally feel alone in this world no one to turn to at all.

well i posted here before about me and my x how we had a situation with one of her friends saying to my x about being friends with benefits well that is cleared up but this saturday we went to a benefit dance and my x girlfriend was dancing with somebody for an hour and a half really dirty in front of me which made me feel really bad and then she brought the person over to meet us holding hands which was very disrespectful to me. then my x said this person was going to the club later with us and i was so mad so we drop this person off at the club to go get some food when we come back to the club this person is with two girls kissing and dancing really dirty so i told my x to go and talk to her friend she said no to let it be but i knew she was mad because it made her look like a fool. I decided to not be her friend anymore because i don't want to put myself in this situations in the future but my question is how can she do that if last weekend we spent it together and she told me she still loved me so if somebody loves u i don't see why would u do what she did it was bad so am i right to not want to talk to her anymore?

we were together for 7 years and lived together for 6 when she broke up with me it was a month that we were not taslking but after we both decided we wanted to be friends because we were good friends before and the thing that gets me mad the most is that this weeeknend we had come out and said to eachother that we still loved eachother.

Well my x broke up with me 6 months ago because she wanted to be alone we are still friends now it was not a bad breakup. well this weekend it looked like we got back together saturday night we went out with her bestfriend that is a girl. She started asking me questions about the relationship and i told her just like it was but never talked bad about my x. well yestreday i was still at my x's house and she went out with her friends. when she got home she told me we need to talk so she asked what i told her friend so i told her and she started crying saying why i was lying to her and why i want to hurt her so bad. It turns out her friend turned things around and had told my x that i had said that all she was for me was a friends with benefits and that at the end of the relationship she was emotionally abusive with me which i know i did not say that i told her to get ready and that we were gonna go to her friends house and i wanted to see what she had to say. My x told me no that she did not want anymore trouble. But she believed her friend because she told me not call her anymore or look for her. So she did not give me a fair chance so i left because she was too emotional all crying but i told her fine that i was not gonna bother her anymore. I know it was not fair to me what happenned and why she would believe her over me. Now my question is what should i do next just let her be but the though that she believes i wanted to hurt her is killing me because that is the last thing i want to do because i love her. what should i do?

thanks for your honest input it makes a lot of sense what u said

Hi my problem is that i was in a relationship with my x for 7 years she broke up with me in july 2003 we lived together for 6 years i moved out 2 weeks after she broke up with me. Well the reason for the breakup was that she needed to find herself so i left and we still had communication until now because we were friends first the problem is that we talked about the relationship and she said she was confused that she did not know what she wanted. Well she came back from vacation and still don't know what she wants on tuesday we were hasnging out together having a good time and she says that we could be friends but yet she gets jealous if my cel rings or if i go out with any girls that are just my friends. Also she has helped me to co-sign for a car and the latest was an insurance too she told me that she did this things because now she don't owed me nothing but yet i don't know what to think about it. She is always questioning me about who i go out with. She doesn't have anybody yet and neither do i my question is should i just not be her friend anymore or distance myself or what? i'm very confused of what to do. thanks